How to mend relations with his mother? A few tips
Mama loves her daughter and her daughter loves her mother. That's right, and many seem so ... but in different ways. We play a game called "Mothers and Daughters" all his life. Only the roles and rules change.
Natural motherly instinct for a little while ago all the women are absolutely equal in their desire to have a baby. But here we get a welcome package with happiness and comes to understand that this child is already a person, not just a continuation of your own. Every mother copes with such a problem with this understanding in different ways. Below are some standard situations, showing that a mother's love can be not only blind, but different.
Mom-leader
Your mom madly attractive and energetic, it is extravagant and brilliant. Her whole life was surrounded by only the beautiful and intelligent people, whether men or women. But, of course, the star has always been exceptionally it. All your life you thought your mother ideal, and tried to imitate it, even in small things. However, behave differently was simply impossible - your mother always knew how you need to behave, what to do, read, and so on. Dance, music school have been a fixture of your upbringing, despite the fact that you've always wanted to communicate with animals. You were willing to do anything to become a little more like your mother, or to win her praise. But, despite the fact that today you shine in any company, the most stringent critic for you is still your mom.
Cons. you are absolutely sure that you do not have a tenth of the merits of his mother. From this, and many complexes. Try to stop this race for the leader and listen to their wishes. Believe me, your mom will not love you less if, instead of Mozart and Chopin, you will begin to listen to Sting and Lady Gaga. Think about what your mom knows what books you like reading, but she does not know anything about what you love to have for dinner. It is necessary to correct this mistake and tell your mom about what matters to you.
Pluses. your learning, extensive reading can only envy. You have a delicate taste, you know how to stay well in society and has a reputation as a sublime nature. Your mother gave you the opportunity to feel her in almost any team - so you should use your skills to benefit themselves.
Council man. If your companion has just such a lady, you get bored you just do not have to. Prepare to win that you will not only daughter but also her mother. If you are not sure that intellectually developed enough for such a family, if your interests lie in another sphere, Try to pay attention to their qualities such as reliability and masculine strength. For a bohemian environment, these characteristics are rare, and therefore particularly appreciated.
Mama-Girlfriend
Your mother always tried to instill in you the self-judgments, decisions, but she was always there with you and provided necessary assistance. You are used to share with her their troubles, both big and small, their doubts. And she always trust you, and never concealed from you my opinion, your thoughts. You will never and do not forbid, and maybe that's why you never tried to organize riots, even in the transition to adulthood. In this case, you have absolutely nothing from the mother's daughter - you held the person, confident in the fact that your mother is proud of you. But sometimes you just like a child, I want to cuddle up to her shoulder.
Cons. Today, more than 10 years ago my mother wants you to share it with all your problems and joys - in general, recounted her your whole day. You do not always have time for it, strength and desire. Sometimes you want instead of sighing over the phone, your mom could help you more effectively - for example, sat with his grandson. It is necessary to remind her that she is your friend, and friends should help each other and talk heart to heart - especially since it will make it not so difficult.
Pluses. Your mother is always advise you and help get out of difficult situation. Your interests for her above all else. It is not necessary to stop access to your mom for help - together is always easier to solve problems. Experience a mature woman is three of your girlfriends, peers. She always listens to you carefully, which is not always ready to make your girlfriend. But still try to always leave the last word is for you. And do not be afraid to make mistakes.
Council man. The most important issue if you are faced with such a family - to be able to fit into the team, not to become a fifth wheel. No need to feel embarrassed that my mother, and daughter listen to the same music or share common interests. Can try to invite my daughter with her mother in a restaurant or nightclub, and you'll learn how to have fun.
Mother-hen
You now, if you find yourself in a difficult situation, involuntarily cries out "Oh, Mom." The meaning of life your mother is to do everything to make you happy. It has long been shouldered by all the chores around the house that you lived simpler and easier. You look younger and fresher than those of your friends who have escaped from the care of their mothers earlier than you. In moments of gratitude you're ready to break your mother's star from the sky, but ... just kiss her on the cheek and ask whether she is patted the blue dress that is so suited to your eyes.
Cons. Your mother tirelessly teaches you how to live, even though you are in its councils do not need a long time, since old enough and independent person. Can not do anything - you will always be baby to his mother. If you think that the methods of raising his grandson a few wrong - think about what she has brought you. And that turned out badly? You should not hold her tantrums, better go with her to the concert with her favorite songs. Find out what she likes, and arrange her a small holiday. You can quickly and easily find her understanding, is wanted.
Pluses. Your mother is very quickly forgets insults, and is always ready to find you kind words. It may not always understand you, but will always be there, and you're at it can always rely on. You should not limitless maternal love. Your mom, helping you enjoy. And it is so easy to make her happy - just tell us how much she means to you, how you appreciate and respect.
Council man. Your mother-in-law - just a treasure. You'll never groomed or hungry. You'll feel as good to have the house, which is so warm and cozy. If you want to invite friends into the house - then they will always be welcome. You can safely go on a fishing trip or on business, and be sure that children sit down, and for your arrival you will always have to wait for a plate of delicious soup. And instead of you almost nothing will demand - just love. You'll need to treat his mother-in as a native mother. And soon it will become for you the closest and loyal to you man.
