It would be nice not to mix up the scandal for no reason with the scandal over. Women are well known for our aversion to such talk. Therefore, they often resort to stratagem in order to draw us into a discussion about "our problems with it." The most common method - come up with some innocent question for or offer, and then when you lose your guard and begin to answer her, zhahnut already from the main fire. Might get the impression that it directly to your disbelieving eyes begin to grow out of molehills. In fact, it is not. She came up to you to fly, but the elephant was in her bosom ....

Women's complaints and ways to counter them

 "You never tells me nothing"

She asks about what you have now been at work. Do you honestly answer: "Nothing." Of course, she immediately takes it as your unwillingness to share with her their thoughts and innermost feelings. It was she who never miss a chance to tell you the details of burning broken heel.

What we can not say in any case: "That I never did not you tell? But how can I at least something to tell if you yourself bursting without stopping? ".

Why is it you sawing? Men relate to communication as a way to transfer information from one person to another. Our phrase that at work, nothing happened, meaning: "nothing important to you, dear." The woman has a different view of the communication process. She wants to know the details and nuances of who said what everyone thought about it and what color the shoes were from this customer. "Nothing" from her point of view can not exist - even in the vacuum pump can still be very nice to chat with a few other isolated molecules.

Not very honest method. Introduce her to someone from their staff. If between zavyazhutsya friendly relations, then very soon already she can tell you in the evening about what happened to your own work.

Honest method. Basically, you do not mind talking about their work. Especially after a good go and half an hour vzdremnete front of the TV. Therefore, instead of grumbling: "Everything is normal," "Nothing happened" and "Do not talk about anything" - better to make an effort and give intelligible sentence: "You know, I am terribly exhausted, and before something tell me need a modicum of calm and beer. " And everything will be all right: she will not feel offended, and you find yourself sawn.

 "When-you-finally-vynesesh-trash-download-underwear-a-car-convergence in the shop ..."

Options may be millions - are always the same. You are not helping her to turn your home into a very cozy little nest in the world. As if you are not affected.

What we can not say in any case: "If you so want it, do all by herself" (Incidentally, it can give you back those words last night in bed.)

Why is it you sawing? She and so head spin: garnish is already in full swing, and the meat is not fried, dishes in the sink the mountain, it is necessary to expose the balcony sleigh, and it will be ironed clothes immediately after domoet floor in the hallway. And we need to finally cut the geraniums!

Not very honest method. Put his hands on her waist (even after her hurtful words to you now does not want to). Look into her eyes. Kiss where necessary. And tell me that it must stop. That even the beauty and purity, which always prevail in your immaculate household, it is not worth it to such a magnificent woman overwork their skillful and magic stick.

Honest method. Do you want to be fair? Well, try it. Grab a pen and a piece of paper, sit down next to her in writing a list: Who is required to do the housework. Optionally, after that your apartment will shine with cleanliness, but the world it accurately set.

 "The whole time you spend with your friends!"

She wanted to have dinner with you and watch together a new cassette. But you said that you have more important things. That Kohl and Vitek already waiting for you in the billiard club, and Peter promised to come back later. Of course, she immediately tells you that you are never together. (Although, incidentally, she lives with you in the same apartment, sleeps with you in the same bed and even then it tries to go with your dish.)

What we can not say in any case: "But, my dear, you really something I see every day."

Why is it you sawing? Every woman needs to be for his men most important person in the world. If she starts to feel on the sidelines, aware that it will be the role of negative characters. In addition, she suspects that you spend time with his buddies in some particularly fascinating and intriguing way, while in her company you mostly go to the grocery store or visit boring relatives. (Here, I confess, it is far from the truth.)

Not very honest method. Try to keep it, too, had their own events to which it is calling you with a no. For example, aerobic exercise several times a week.

Honest method. Follow the simple equation: an evening with friends = 1 night with her. But only outside the home. If you could stay home just because you had nowhere to go today, the joint attacks on the street (does not matter - in the theater, to visit or in a cafe) will prove to her that you still appreciate her company.

 "You do not listen to what I say!"

Only on TV news came as she (quite synchronously) began an endless monologue, telling you all the minute details of the last conversation with her aunt Maria Petrovna. You are trying to pretend that passionate about the story, but she quickly catches you on what you're staring at the screen and even moving his lips after a political columnist. We do two things at once do not know how, so it's a dead number.

What we can not say in any case: "I'm sorry, you said something?"

Why is it you sawing? Because you did not originally programmed for it to hear what she says.

Not very honest method. Examine your own facial expressions, especially those expressions that are most likely to have on your face at that moment when you have a specific interest. Now the next time you only need to exert the necessary right facial muscles. Do not look at the conversation directly into her eyes (or it will easily notice the cosine, which you now and then give away the screen). Sometimes nods. If you hear a pause in speech, you can insert there interjection "y-yy", "haw" or "here's how."

Honest method. If you do not want to listen to paraphrase this long, wonderfully boring and totally devoid of logic, dialogue, begin to speak for yourself. Even on a completely unrelated topic - the main thing that was hot enough, long-winded and energetic.

 "You leave behind in the bathroom spooky barn!"

Anyway, you're never behind him does not take away ...

What we can not say in any case: "You yourself was there 10 minutes ago."

Why is it you sawing? In the vast majority of cultures - from civilized society to the primitive tribes - the women have an obligation to maintain order in the house. Convince her that the hair in the sink and dirty rims on the bath - this is nonsense and it everyday, then go to war with its ancient natural instincts.

Not very honest method. Take a shower in the morning as soon as possible. Upon entering the bathroom after you, she sleepily at first she would herself up and only then himself against, found some disarray.

Honest method. Admit it right. Tell us what you really usual for such a weakness: you always leave the bathroom dirty. But you'll deal with it.

These were the most common female complaint. Of course, in reality there are many more. Women of his inventions in this matter. They just love to invent and create problems. Moreover, it is absolutely independent of whether there is a woman's free time, or it is spinning like a squirrel in a cage. Even superzanyataya beznes-woman will have time to think of the day, a couple of other topics for the evening discussing with her husband. Still, the position of homemakers to oblige. We must somehow it is the storage of display! But if we talk seriously and honestly, most often a reason for such unpleasant conversations create ourselves. So, before you refuse to wash dishes for themselves, we must remember that night she would have left 15,000 words to talk about it and the insatiable desire to save your union.