Why do I need to marry

Once, after several unsuccessful attempts to start a serious relationship, you sit down and think: why do I need? Why are all the women are so eager to get married, start a family? What is the purpose of marriage? What Does it carries in itself? To begin, we can identify its core functions, and after - the stages of creation. So, a little psychological training:

the function of procreation - in the family are born heirs who will continue exactly your kind;

transfer function values - in the upbringing of children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren and so on, from generation to generation, passed the family tradition, rules, orders;

function of cohesion - the person there is a collective, and in the family, he usually feels safe, and therefore confident.

These are the basic and most important functions that bears the family. When choosing a marriage partner is necessary to observe punctuality. But that's who like to turn out. Someone throws in a love relationship as a pool with his head, and someone painstakingly examines a partner on the shelves. But we, women have an excellent mechanism that works like a Swiss watch - intuition. When a number appears "that" or "he", we may feel that "flew" (or vice versa - "landed"), but usually there is an uncontrollable desire to have a child is from "the man".

Is it difficult to maintain family relationships? Speculate.

1. Well, here you have supposedly together, live in a civil marriage. He is full of pros and cons. Pluses look like for this time you can see if you fit this man. It does not matter whether the special is not compatible with you bad habits. Not a snob, do not waste it. ... Well, in general, each of us has different criteria. And now cons : people with great difficulty, cross the brink of civil marriage to the law. And many supporters of civil marriage do not even think about that, even after living with a partner one million years together, you never learn it completely. Guess why? Because the Earth rotates, and the summer is replaced by the autumn, and every day we have a different mood. Because everything in the world has its own life and the changes accordingly. Today is your favorite - the perfect life. He was strewn with roses you said nice words ... Schick, the brilliance, beauty! A year of living together he was watching television and live one job. You could start a panic: what is it? What happened to him? What happened to my fluffy kitten, and where did this unshaven monster? Well, of course, how to live with him now?

I do not remember where I heard this phrase, but I think it's brilliant. "Love - it's not then when you enjoy each other every day. Love - it then, if you go at it as work, each time improving it and enhancing." Do not expect that love will bring you some pleasure and orgasms. It will beat you so badly, it does not hit nobody else. Because most painfully, can make the kind of person who genuinely love me. But do not be afraid of it.

Stupid and vulgar phrase, "love needs to be addressed," actually has a profound meaning. I'm not about sex. Imagine that you - the sculptor. In front of you a piece of stone, but in your fantasy masterpiece. And you will, day after day to try this masterpiece to realize, every time something changing, somewhere tinkering, making some adjustments ... well, you'll create. You'll do his masterpiece. With love as well. For what it had been perfect, it should do .

2. There is an ancient board of ideal family relations, "for what would be in the family was all good, every one of its members, should one day something in the family piggy bank to invest. When the crisis hit, it's content you can get, and the crisis will be held. But when someone stops to invest, imbalance, followed by chaos. " I hope you understand that all of this figuratively? There is not a consideration to put in the treasury $ 100, and when swearing to get them (though, your imagination). Every day you have to do something nice for each other . That every day will strengthen your relationship.

3. Another great tip for psychological training of our grandmothers: "Every morning, without exception 7 Kisses." First, nice, and then through the power and then appropriate. This is explained by the fact that every person required physical contact. Child need to be 60 per day! Adults less, but no more than half. Often hug, iron your vote, and the relationship will be fixed. Let a smile appears regularly on your lips.

4. Another recommendation for "a happy relationship, try to see good things in a partner . Do not worry, the bad will not run away from your watchful eye. But, looking at him, saying to yourself: what is it for me ... .. (Only positive). As often as you think in a negative direction, hate him for what he were born. Accordingly, very quickly run away.

5. Men do not like pressure. Man by nature - a predator. You should be able to play the victim, and then gently and secretly re-it as you wish. If you are going to marry him, not beat him this fact in his forehead! Even if you have this so indecisive .... Discuss with him the subject, but from the perspective of the creator. That is, find out when and how he's going to start a family, what of it is waiting and so on. Think about Are you satisfied such criteria marriage. If yes, plavnenko, Keep what is said your cute. If the wife of his dreams - a copy of my mother, my mother quickly get to know and see how she behaves with her son. Takes over all, without exception. And then use it in practice. He did not say. It would be nice to subconsciously satisfied. Because boys tend to be very attached to her mother , and if he sees you as familiar and dear to the heart notes, will put on a pedestal! Just do not use it in nefarious purposes. As the biblical law: "Everything that we do not, return to us many times over the amount." So unless you do not want to get in a multiple amount of gratification of your desires, the desire to be with you side by side and only with you?

I think every man glad to see in your home the ideal woman . This word means by itself all spheres of life. The ideal mother, wife, lover, hostess, cook, companion .... List is never rolled. But. You are born a human and not super gemoflibitom from the planet's Eve, so anything else you do is simply unable to. A long list of ideals, it was you, makes an ideal one thing, for example, you great lover. So, do both that would be your prince appreciate it. Show him that despite the fact that every morning you undercooked eggs, in the bedroom You "nazharite his eggs." Your companion should know what his lady - a professional, and that she was not given. And that's fine. He did not become Superman! Or now?

And of course I like to emphasize that it is always and everywhere, at all times and ages, the foundation of happy relationships was trust. If you are with your partner do not trust each other, then do not look for happiness here, it never will be. How can there be happiness when you (or he), sit and think: well at work if my other half? And maybe have a strip bar with friends, tweaked for girls ass? ... Trust - starts with happiness . If you want to trust him in the first place, he must trust you. Whatever it was not absurd, but to wean the faithful of betrayal, we can show him that you yourself keep him faithful, no matter what!

Be bold and feminine, and all you get!