Say, the shortcomings - just a continuation of the merits. Some families are so caring and considerate, that escape from under the guardianship of this obsession is almost impossible. How can that be if the family unwittingly violate your right to independence? Life is my friend Tamara has always been strictly regulated. Leaving for it every hour of call-back home to parents: just say that it's all right. From guest Tom always went at least nine in the evening. Even if the party was still in full swing, home of Tamara was a curfew: no later than ten o'clock! All the objections like: "Mom, well, I did not open the door with his key," Tamarin mother replied: "We are still with the father will not sleep until your arrival. And anyway, nothing to wander the dark streets. " Incidentally, I mentioned that Tamara is not so long ago, forty years?

Yes, there are families who feel commonplace total control , and thus unwittingly infringe on our personal interests and the right to own private space. How do get rid of these shackles? First we need to try and stop worry about their dependence on the family. Change the attitude. To get started, try to accept your personal attacks on the territory as a comedy. It's really funny when a parent or spouse (a) protect the adult self of man as some kind of silly.

For example, when my sister came to Tamara Elia and parents Tamara tried to control it the same way as used to control a daughter, she simply saw this as jokes and behave accordingly. For example, going to a nightclub, said: "Do not worry, I'll be up to ten!" - And actually came up to ten ... in the morning, at nine-fifteen. A constant calls to a mobile Ele with questions: "Where are you? And now where? A minute later going where? "And it does not angry. On the contrary, she called back ten minutes later after a "control" the call and announced: "I called to report that I am now in the toilet. And if in the next five minutes I will not take up, it does not mean that I was kidnapped, it means I followed the call of nature. " So that the right to privacy is better protect joking.