Any family is going through about five or six crises in its development. Psychologists say that the crisis in the family - nothing like a new step in the relationship of your family. The main thing to understand what has changed at this stage, and how you can get out of this situation with minimal losses. Dressed in a white wedding dress, you believe that you will now have to start a new life full of harmony and love. If someone in this joyous day told you that your feelings are not one time tested for durability, you probably would have just laughed fool in the face. What is there to check? Your love will unearthly any tests. However, in spite of that family crises - a harsh reality, to go through that you need. To marry men, you agree to be with him not only joy but in sorrow. Should not be considered the crisis a necessary evil, it will help you clean up your relationship from the superficial, insincere. Think of the crisis as a new stage of maturity of your family, after which your relationship will become more intimate, warm and trustworthy. The main thing is to pass this stage and not leave. Because divorces each year is becoming more and more. So you should listen to our advice. Hopefully they will help you.

First year: life stuck

There is a surprising fact that the crisis of the first year of marriage experience, even those who before the official registration lived for several years. Socks strewn across the apartment, snoring, unclosed tube of toothpaste - all these and many other things, starts you terribly annoying and unnerving. In general, the romanticist waving, running, you knob. Why is this happening? The cause of your irritation, and as a consequence of conflict lies in the difference education. You grew up in different families, each with its own view of the family. And since children are often unconsciously copying the behavior of their parents' conflicts of interest inevitable. The main thing, to learn to compromise.

You see, despite the fact that you and your spouse are now one family, but the people you're different, and each of you has a right to their habits, their opinions. You can not try to alter the half, considering that it is wrong, because in its own way it just right. And my husband always says thank you to you if you give him some questions. To determine the most fundamental questions that are not going to give in, the rest can be discussed and jointly come to some decision.

Three years: we now have a baby!

You're sitting at home has so much time, practically without leaving your baby and your husband is now gone (what a callous, wow) in a pub with friends to watch football. You have all the forces trying to lose weight, but he seemed to care. List of claims to a spouse is constantly growing, adding to all new items. However, it is understood that during this difficult not only for you but also for your spouse.

Many men simply do not know how to behave properly and are kept in a state of confusion. The most effective opportunity to release tension in your relationship - to share responsibilities. Commit yourself to your spouse some daily responsibilities for the care of the baby. For example, suppose that he bathes him and walk with him. And you do not need so much to dwell on his motherhood - is sometimes found with their friends, often remember that you - a woman. Try to spend as much time with her husband, may, for example, sometimes sending the baby to his grandmother, and himself to go somewhere to relax.

Five to seven years: extreme thirst

It seems that the whole life long ago adjusted, the child is already quite large, independent, you've come to work. But during this period, you clearly understand that something is wrong, something does not stack. Sometimes you go to the thought that it would be if you got married not because of its Petka, but for Sasha from next door. Oh, he-unlike in Petya always smart, is responsible for all the family, do not drink and so on.

And his Petka and aging have become lazy and dull. Here it is worth staying. So much you're used to each other, which can pull the adventure on the side. You start to stare, even those men who you had absolutely no interest. Why this can happen. You just feel that my husband calmed down and stopped to pay attention to you, interested in you. A vivid sensations and emotions oh how like!

The yield here is only one - talk to your husband. After all, the unspoken complaints and resentment only push us away from you even more from each other. The more so if you do not say what you feel, man, it is unlikely to guess. So if you want to keep the family together - to talk. Also worth trying to change its image, style, hair color. Sign up, such as driving school. Let your spouse again see you woman I need to win, win.

Fourteen years old: a graying beard

This crisis is the exact opposite just described. Now is your husband, you want something bright and new, unusual, and it starts to come in the evening very late, did not respond to calls and so on. Also, your children have grown and are now experiencing a crisis - the teen. And it bore down in a moment. However, as always.

Do not try in this case, to sort things out, or vice versa, to pretend that everything that happens does not interest you. Psychologists say that it is best just to survive this period. Show how important to you this marriage, these relationships. After any crisis - a temporary phenomenon, and this crisis will end, too, just have patience. Engage them, change the image, walk around the beauty salon. Exactly in this period is optimal to find some common cause. You can start a repair, buy new furniture. Give your spouse to understand that in his care, attention should be paid not only you but also your children.

Twenty-five years: empty nest

You have achieved all their goals in career, children are grown and have established their own families ... and then what? If you and your husband have seen the meaning of his life only in children, this period will be most difficult for you. You are left alone with a man who long ago you do not really care, as it turned out. Maybe an official divorce and do not need, but actually dissolve your marriage may well be.

Remember that when you love your husband, not because of the children, but because he was charming, gentle, intelligent, and so on. Try more likely to remember all the light that was in your life, it is desirable that all this was connected with your spouse. Too many couples in this period to understand that once long ago made the right choice. Is not this a great opportunity to thank each other?

Should not be parted from each other, try to meet again. Engage children, grandchildren, but forget about yourself still not worth it. Because now, when the children are adults, you can start to live for myself with full rights.

Learn how to overcome difficulties

Every family faces during its existence with the problems. But with them you can cope, if we approach it skillfully.

1. Discuss problems without fear of a quarrel.

2. Try to find some common interests.

3. Constantly evolving, do not stand still. Open in new talents for all time to remain interesting to her husband.

4. Rest from each other. Short-term separation will only strengthen your relationship.

5. It is not necessary to count and compare how many times a month, you're making love. There are periods of short-term cooling to each other, we should not dwell on it.