Shyness can be observed even in the behavior of very young children: in the company of strangers or unfamiliar child hides behind her mother, refuses to participate in communion. Do shy children are often marked not very stable nerves, they are easily excited, cautious and wary of any innovation, quickly get tired, sometimes tearful. These children require strict adherence to feeding and sleep, new experiences and emotions should be dosed carefully, observing the condition of the baby. At the first sign of fatigue is to calm your baby, put him to bed, if possible move it to the usual familiar surroundings.

Shy children of preschool age, too often cling to their mothers, looking at them protection from the surrounding reality. Here is a typical pattern of behavior shy child of preschool age: while interacting with peers kid kept away from children's games, although the game is clearly interested him, watching the game, but not decided to join. Often the invitation to join in a game the child has refused for fear of doing something wrong. Communicating with a small amount of long-familiar people are generally no different from ordinary children's communication, ie, the main manifestations of shyness arise when dealing with unfamiliar children or with a large group of children.

If a child becomes shy Your friendly adult, the child smiles shyly, fidgeting in his chair, pulls his head into his shoulders, looked askance - avoids direct gaze, if so requested to perform any action, timidly refuses or does, sometimes not the first attempt; if an adult asks a question - child responds uncertainly, in a low voice, whisper, or does not respond at all. If an adult is set firmly behaves harshly and impatiently, the child gets lost, sometimes even frightening, the request executes quickly or refuses to comply, often confused and mistaken, the questions are answered hesitantly or not respond at all, turned away, avoiding eye contact.

At school age shyness can be illustrated by a child's behavior that meets near the boards. Should question the teacher or offer to perform any task. A shy student, even if he is well prepared, embarrassed, blushing, finds it difficult to answer. If at this moment the class is behaving incorrectly - intentionally starts loudly tells make fun of a child - increases confusion in charge was no longer able to respond and just waiting for this trial is over and he can sit on the seat. The teacher should show tact and help your child with dignity out of the situation.

The most acute manifestations of shyness can be observed during children's matinees or other public events. The child may be well prepared, but because of shyness learned the poem says hurriedly in a low voice or whisper, sometimes quite refuses, and he gets very upset at this. During the collective public performances of such problems usually arise. Together with other children shy child can and dance and sing. Thus, embarrassment is to draw public attention to the person.

Often shy students are accompanied by other disturbing behaviors - hypochondria, anxiety, isolation, and various phobias. Most severely shy children and adolescents seen during the development of new areas of children, on admission to nursery, kindergarten or school. Moving a child from one medium to another (from home - in a manger, from kindergarten - the school), a changing environment makes children feel insecure, children are often afraid to show their ignorance or inability, and ashamed to admit it, find it difficult to ask for help. In most cases, the child wants to communicate with other people, but it feels very uncomfortable when communicating, does not know how to avoid it, because of what he had to suppress their desires and hide their abilities.

Awkward age

The second period of increased shyness in children accounts for teens. Approximately 12-14 years old adolescent inner eye is directed at self, increased propensity to self-analysis and introspection, a teenager trying to find himself in the world. Often in this age of self-esteem people is inadequate and understated, the teenager is sure that others have about him only bad opinion, considers himself an uninteresting and insignificant. Such a suspicion, if a child can not cope with it alone, and nobody will give him moral support and assistance, can develop over time in depression. All these manifestations are more pronounced in girls. Entry at the time of youth is characterized by self-esteem and self-esteem, shyness and gradually weakens.

Shy teenagers tend to hate their shyness, get rid of her dream and become like the others - bold, liberated, easy to talk to. Teen tortured doubts, worries and anxiety because of his shyness, he grieves and suffers. Sometimes it spills out in overcompensation of shyness, when a young person starts to behave overconfidence, defiant, sometimes even brazenly and aggressively. At such times, young people can be rude to people who are in general very much respect, behave poorly, commit acts that are in the normal state would be unable to decide. Such behavior is caused by the desire to be as a teenager, like everyone else, and prove to the world that he is not shy, but on the contrary, bold and liberated. Behaving in such a way as a teenager understands that he is doing wrong but can not stop without help.

At this time, for it is especially important psychological support and understanding of the loved ones. During this period, for adolescents is characterized by such acts of self-assertion, as an escape from the parents' home, the fascination with tattoos, piercings, and sometimes alcohol and drugs as a sign of independence and the need to make their own decisions. The transition from adolescence to adolescence leads to a reassessment of the concepts and values. Including changes related to shyness, especially influenced by the fact that in this period, young people raises self-esteem comes self-esteem and an appreciation of his personality.