Self-esteem - the way to success
Why is so important for us to self-esteem? Because self-esteem - the belief in yourself and in your hand. Thanks to the self, we are confident that we can cope with any life problems. Self-assessment gives us a sense of dignity, confidence in a right to happiness, etc. Everybody knows the problems with self-esteem lead to problems in family life, at work and in relationships with others. The most important thing in assessing themselves - it's objectivity. Many people think that the key to success - high self-esteem. Here, I'll think I'm all so clever, beautiful - and everyone will accept me just that. It's not quite the right approach, or rather he did wrong.
When a person is too arrogant, he believes that surpasses all others and it is not only does not add to his popularity, but rather many sets against him. Well, who like to communicate with a person who considers himself the center of the universe? Indeed, such self-esteem, he simply demeans others! Another option - self-esteem low. People are unhappy, he complex. How he will treat others? Well certainly not better than he treats himself. From such a man come pulses loser, so do not be surprised that in the end it to someone about it says, lowering his self-esteem even more.
So how can that be? What should be the self-esteem? How to evaluate yourself objectively? To begin to understand one simple thing - there are no ideal people, and even if a person makes on your impression of the ideal - believe me, you are mistaken. You also are not perfect, something you get better, something worse. You can make mistakes because you are a real person and that's fine. Do you have both advantages and disadvantages. Emphasis should be on its own merits and drawbacks of fight and not get hung up on them.
Actually quite difficult to raise self-esteem, not to say a person with low self-esteem: You're doing fine, you will do it! And he repeatedly fails, and similar praise it may even plunge into depression. Means to do so to receive. And how? Need to identify their strengths and weaknesses and take up only what you can handle with confidence. But when followed by one victory, two, three - may complicate his task. Such victories will increase and your self-esteem. Now some tips how to improve self-esteem.
The very first thing you should do - to refuse self-criticism. Self-criticism is destructive, as a rule for yourself what we are the toughest critics and most awful thing is that in most cases we are not objective.
Never compare yourself with others. Each of us is different and unique. You should not be anyone like and you should not be exactly the same as someone else. Each person has their own destiny, their difficulties, their own lives.
Learn to accept failure. Likely it will seem preposterous. You may ask: Why make their mistakes? And then, if you learn to make the lessons of his defeat, you will not tread on the same rake. People with low self-esteem tend to reject what they do not go, not out of this lesson. I do not get it because I was not given, I am the worst of all, etc. This is the wrong approach. I did not work? Understand, why not get: do not have the patience, talent, time, etc. Only by understanding the reason for his failure, taking it and making conclusions - you will be able to move on.
Get rid of self-pity. To sympathize with someone you can, but feeling sorry for myself - no way! Feeling sorry for yourself, you will invoke pity from others, others seem helpless and inferior. Think self-sufficient people can cause us to pity? People believing in yourself? Of course not! Therefore, self-pity you never help to raise self-esteem!
Another important point - it's addictive. As a general rule, most of all we depend on your beloved. Yes there are dependent we are trying to possess it! Over time, our second half is with us a whole, and we just can not imagine life without him! And then one fine day this man, whom we tried to enjoy and from which, by our definition, independent our whole life - moving away from us.
And what we do? That's right, we are left with low self-esteem, because who we are without him now? Called "Do not make yourself an idol." Need to understand one simple thing: I am I! Personality, personality, to me to be someone - I do not need to close a particular person. Because I'll always be by itself - with or without him. And all my achievements and success in life depends on me!
The next quality, from which you want to get rid of - pessimism. When we ourselves are not sure, we are constantly scrolls in my thoughts all its present and future failures. We anticipate them and are afraid, because pre-configures itself to failure. Do not let the bad thoughts to poison your life. Man can not live in harmony with others and with himself when he is constantly waiting for something bad in life. Living with bad thoughts, this life is in constant stress, poor mood, with the uncertainty of the future. And any uncertainty has a negative impact on our self-esteem. It employs a simple principle - we are afraid of the future, and fear breeds self-doubt.
The next pitfall on the path to self-esteem - our impatience. Something is changing in itself, having gained the first victory for some reason we think that from this day we all go like clockwork and never will be frustration. It does not happen, unfortunately. Work on yourself to life, one win does not mean victory over all difficulties, and one failure does not mean - that all life is continuous blunders. Let me change firmly entrenched in your life, do not wait every time for manna from heaven. Each new defeat you need to make a lesson and next time to win.
Another most common mistake people with low self-esteem - it is the fear of asking for help. Somehow we think that applying for help, we will show to be untenable, and thus further reduce their self-esteem. A recipe for success - it is the interaction with others. What do you think is better to find support and get out of difficult situations winner, than alone lose? Each victory gives you confidence, so no matter how you come out of sticky situation - alone or interacting with others, the result is important!
And finally ... Love yourself! Can not apply with respect to the man, if he himself does not respect and love. Love yourself today, you should not put off your love for yourself tomorrow!
