Profanity as an attribute of independence

The psyche of a teenager is very unstable, and the more you push on it, the fierce resistance, sometimes even passing all bounds. You can break the resistance, but it will be a Pyrrhic victory, since the crushing of the child, we have finally immoral person who is a lifelong lesson learned - the truth on the side of someone who is stronger. Since one can wonder the notorious cruelty of adolescents? Why are they sometimes so relish the cursing, as an attribute of autonomy and independence? How to deal with outbreaks of rage? Curse? Beat? Persuade? What generally can be done? On the foul arguing not only psychologists, but even theologians and psychics. Traditions of Russian profanity as rich as all the other traditions of our people. What is it fact? And specifically - what teen profanity?

In psychological terms - this is definitely a riot, a desire to organize "your world", neglect of the foundations, sample the world of strength, a kind of adolescent cynicism and extremism, lack of tolerance to the world and his critical spirit. But those who do not consider the personality and essence of man, only as a set of nerve cells and spontaneously arising and randomly assigned reactions - believe that it is not just a claim to adulthood. Esoterically, it is believed that foul - this is by means of which the world is testing our children - how the soul can resist the evil, or immature, inexperienced, willing to admit it?

Those who are familiar with the secret practices, know that evil must be Admitted into the soul voluntary, and perverted horrible notions that are expressed in abusive language akin to exorcism, which is a conductor of Evil. You can not believe this, of course. Even for the materialists, which is not alien to creative thinking, it is understandable that some truth in this. Word - is the thread that ties with the world. Rather, one of the threads. The substitution of the word - is the substitution of the path. Subconscious influence word on the mind and soul is undeniable. Smeared and lost in everyday sharp sound horrible, inhuman sense of obscene expressions, why we take it quietly? Why do we allow these concepts creep into our consciousness? And why does this slang so attractive to teenagers?

Psychologist, teacher, lawyer, priest and magician - each will give your answer to this question. But you should start not with this, and with the question "Where did this come from?" The answer is clear - from us to you, respected elders. This we could not resist the satanic these formulas, it is we let them out. If we do not use these words (in any case, children) why these expressions do not go out drinking? Because we allow it, as it allows the street hooligans accost passers-by as tolerated to fume in the bus, as calmly look at the cruelty against others. And a small consolation for us is that "it's not us."

Do not suppress the identity of the child

The older generation complains, they say, how cynical and intolerant became the current younger generation! But let me, because it is we brought them such, as it is for us, they are equal, it's us they learn to life! Whether many parents of children who have not heard these words? Youth slang - it's something that has not escaped any one generation. But he usually goes with the onset of maturity. A foul is included in everyday life so that even some "advanced" linguists propose to include it in the Russian literary language. At the same time, I do not know how, but everyone is more or less cultured person understands how it is incompatible with normal relations between people.

So the battle - no doubt an evil that should be eradicated ruthlessly. Suggest a teenager thought to the meaning of what he says. Very few people, especially young, spoiled enough to say such things consciously. Parents who behave as if their own child is not interested, skip past the ears of his views, ignore its problems, can grow only a cynic, a boor and a tyrant, occupied only themselves and their interests, which will have to use profanity as an attribute of independence .

Parents often go to the other extreme - practicing the principles of non-intervention - every man for himself. In such families are not taken to share their experiences. Live here in English saying "Everyone must carry their own bag." The child accepts these principles, and did not see anything bad in them, but at a critical moment for the family where the parents would like to receive from him the support and understanding, they do not get. Offended no one, except themselves. Themselves as the child is not taught.

You can not educate children from a position of permissiveness, or he may feel abandoned and useless, will try to attract the attention of adults are very different, sometimes prohibited methods, or simply decide that, once it all is permitted, it can be inconsiderate of others with parents as well. Excessive care is also harmful. Nothing but flabby layabouts and momma's boy and daughters grow up will not work. Help, but do not take the full solution of children's issues. Teach children self-reliance, be counselors, but are not magicians who can do everything for the child. Otherwise, grow a home tyrant or passive quitter. Total should be in moderation - and praise, and criticism, and freedom and control.

Become tolerant to their child to be his partner and not the opposing party, not to humiliate, but to support, not to keep silent about their claims, as honestly and openly discuss the problem - it's hard. But it is possible. Just have always, in every situation remember that you really, really love your child. And if today he is stubborn, opinionated, obnoxious overgrown lazy. It will pass. But if you mess up a relationship with him, make him hate you, you lose your great friend, companion, comrade, who may be - and always will be! - Your child.