Love at a distance
Almost every one of us had the experience of love from a distance. I think many people fall in love with guys who lived in other cities. Dating place on vacation, internship in youth in summer camps, hiking, etc. Relations were maintained correspondence, phone calls, smskami. Can I take this relationship seriously? Love at a distance is, or is it we have created an illusion? Let's try to figure it out.
Love by correspondence
This is a fairly common form of love. You become acquainted with a man away from home on business trips, internships, on vacation, etc. Maybe even some time encounter, but in the end, everyone goes to their place of residence. And start a correspondence and phone calls. Her friends introduce you to persist with a strong half of mankind, and you continue to brush off and prove to everyone that you have long been a young man!
The whole problem of these relations is that it is something you like and eat, but actually it is not ... you can not come to him for his birthday a girlfriend, go to the theater or a movie, it does not comfort you when you are ill or you're upset about something, etc. Such love is gradually eroding, because when you love, I want to be with a loved one nearby, to see it, is very important physical contact. The yield in this situation, only one - to move to some one, but in fact the matter can not quite simply ...
Love - Online
This kind of love these days is very popular. People spend much time on the Internet, dating fastened much easier than in person. The Internet brings people commonality of interests and pleasant stay in chat rooms and forums. Here you can fool around, joke and is not afraid to look like something ridiculous. Many people through the Internet are soul mates.
And, apparently, what could be better soul mates? But, alas, the majority of online dating is no chance to develop into something more meaningful than everyday communication in ICQ or on the forum. The first stumbling block - the geographical location. If he lives in Vladivostok, and it is in Rostov on Don, then the maximum that they can - is to meet one single time, the frequent meetings in general are not talking.
The second reason that Internet love ends very quickly - disappointment, it is, alas, inevitable. Communicating online, we either keep back something of yourself, or simply stretching the truth. Ascribe the virtues which are not. Say what you like, but know what a man really can only be private meetings and those meetings should not be one and not two. It is this kind of love creates an illusion that is almost never coincides with reality.
Love from case to case
Yes, there are such kind of relationship. People meet every six months or once a year. Met at a holiday, agree to meet again next year, or it may be meeting in the mission. Such meetings are usually bright and passionate. Perhaps that kind of relationship can hardly be called love, it's probably the adventure and play.
Partners do not even think about tomorrow, all as the last time. In these respects, there is something fascinating, is intriguing, but alas .. do not continue. For a year or six months, much to happen, however, tend to "love on a case by case" is more of entertainment and nothing more.
So is there any sense in relation to the distance? They say that separation strengthens the feelings and brings people together. Personally, I do not think so. The man has one great quality that helps him get through everything - is the ability to adapt to the situation. Living apart, we, quite simply, get used to living without a loved one. Sooner or later there comes a day when we realize that life is beautiful and without it!
Of course, we are not talking about mad love, this does not pass even with the years, but as a rule, love at a distance sufficiently immature, because love is not possible to know each other well. Feelings they have for one another, imbued with an illusion and rosy dreams that have nothing to do with reality.
Love at a distance generates does not sublime feelings, often accompanied by her jealousy, recriminations and lies. Well that should change, but in a letter to write that every day I just about you and think? What should forget congratulations on his birthday, and in correspondence to lie, that the seriously ill and was bedridden, etc.
At a distance we can come up with anything, but do not do when you look into the eyes of your partner, there will be all clear without any words.
Stendhal described the very true love: love - it means to experience pleasure when you see, touch, feel all your senses and on as close a creature that you love and who loves you ....
I do not dispute that there are cases where people have long and overwritten, seen only once - get married. But it's probably the exception rather than the rule. To love some man you must feel, but it is impossible to do from a distance. Otherwise, we will either cool to each other, or begin to love is not a specific person, but an illusion, which they themselves have created.
