Labels that are imposed on us

What are you currently wearing? In fact, what you like, or what encourages you to log Podium? Maybe it's the same thing, but here's the question. Which came first? And what you have toothpaste? And what do you eat? All this leads to the fact that there are certain "norms of behavior." Someone once said that a woman should be thin, and now millions of girls bring themselves to malnutrition and exhaustion, to be thin. Are labels. We hung them from head to toe.

The start was taken when he was released on "etiquette". This is done so that would be able to behave in certain places. Then we had the "right" to dress, we should have the "correct" the whole, and mouth, we must "correctly" smell menthol and eucalyptus, and yes even without sugar. But there is a reasonable question: dear, and who will decide what is right and what is not?

For example, as we'll react if we see on the street pissing woman? Well, as a perturbation, of course! And we are sure that we think "correctly". And this woman could not handle their needs in other designated places, because up to this place for a long time to run, and was already unbearable. And the woman made it as needed.

Well, what would say about a girl who in one night kiss with three guys? Will not voice it out loud, you have already said. And you believe that we acted "correctly". Well, a girl, for example, have not decided who she likes, and that's choosing. And too sure what to do "right."

We think in templates. Few people now goes beyond what is permitted. Such as the rule, and make their way to iron a brighter future. People who are free from labels, hang tags and not on others. But really, who is still to decide what is right and what is not? After all, people are now turned into a gray mass. Why? Because trying to live "properly." In the metro, we are not talking loudly. Say so, that would blend in with the general noise. Why? Afraid that we will listen? Afraid of attention? Afraid of condemnation! After all, someone with an obvious inferiority complex necessarily vykriknet from the audience: "What are you yelling? Shut your mouth. " And will continue to pretend to be asleep not to give way to standing next to my grandmother. And to give way - is this correct? Indeed, in the transport states that: it is desirable to give place to the old lady, a lady with a child and the disabled. But it is not necessary.

See how zagudit trolley, if 17 year-old boy did not jump in front of an old man. The fact that this guy probably feels bad, he is still after the fracture has not healed leg, although gypsum is gone. That no one cares, you gotta get up. Because it is "correct."

You yourself, certainly not a story heard that young girls were dying from exhaustion. For some, the age of eighteen (!) Began climax, someone just suffered psychologically. This has not yet got stronger minds are already asserting that the "right" to be skinny. And especially your body is not interested. This is wrong. I had a client, seventeen year old girl, a dancer. Few years, she was treated for anorexia. For those who do not know what it is, I will explain - a disease caused by a complete lack of appetite, which entails losing weight, exhaustion and ... When she sat on a chair in front of me, I appreciated about her weight - about 40 kg. Do you know what she told me? "I do not want to eat. In me, this jam. Well, look the same as I am fat! I have a huge belly! "

A thing? Prada. Gucci. Dolce & Gabanna. And much more, we can not afford it. It does not matter. Week does not sing, and buy myself a handbag from a famous designer. But losing weight even more. If even no money at all these clothes, run to a Chinese shop, and buy the same bag, only with the label Made in china. Why? Why? Well, unless you prefer this bag than a knapsack, in which our grandmother in the Soviet era wore their veshchichki? Well, no. Not convenient. And fashionable. Cause if we lay out their "values" in the handbag simply, we are obviously laughed at. So we spend money, time and health that would have to live the "right" like everyone else.

Whether there is this vicious circle out? Maybe. Everyone finds it himself. You know, the code of a psychologist is one very clever point. Clever it so that it can be used not only in the code, and not only in psychology. It sounds like: all that is said in the office of a psychologist - are confidential. But there are exceptions in that case, if the information brought by the client may harm him or others.

It's not literally of course, is the essence. This implies a lot. Live as you want. Wear things that are convenient for you, eat what you like, walk in a way which pleases you. But so that it would not hurt you and others. For example, you decide that why do we need all these rags, I will go in the buff ... and go. But it really can "prevent" people around you. Because the streets are children, nervous and grandparents, etc. Therefore, it is necessary not to live in such a way that would please everyone, and that they do not interfere.

I do not think anyone can prevent 150 kilograms of your priests. It just may affect you. But if you're happy with everything - live and enjoy life! And spit on all of the standards 90 - 60 - 90! Your ass, too, someone will appreciate.

We are the same people. We must somehow differ from each other. Why do we want to do the same? Well, for example, you have cellulite. And you, of course, kompleksuete about it. Because in advertising and on the podium girls smooth legs. So what? And I have cellulite! I can safely proud of him. You know why? Because it makes me not like everything. And if I'm still not ashamed of it, so generally, I turn into a personality. I do not curtained Life and labels of the great designers who can help hide my "lack". I am happy and cellulite, and with a big belly, and even with something that kind, because I know how to live in pleasure. And these little things do not knock me out of a rut. Better to spend that energy, the energy of the experiences of an inferiority complex, and then the grueling training sessions in the hall, to something pleasant and beneficial. For a walk with your child. A romantic evening with her husband. For a walk all night with friends. A cellulite? And let it be. He once again proves itself to you, that you - not a gray mass, you - personality.

Is not it nice to eat a big breakfast buterbrodik and wash it down with some tea? If you want to, then of course nice. Clearly better than choking calorie oatmeal. Sometimes you can ovsyanochki and peck, but only for pleasure.

And if you have a highly developed voice, then sing it myself on the health of the street, in the shower, at work. So of course, what would it never stopped anyone from work. And the fact that you have any envious - not even hesitate. Because everyone wants to be free from labels, to do what you want, say what they think, but no. So we are "good" was raised. Why people will look at you with envy - they then can not.