Judge not that ye be not judged
A well-known saying goes: do not judge, ye be not judged . And if you tried? For "improper" behavior, an error of youth, a "dumb" purchase. It does not matter what! How to defend its interests, while in the line "discussed and condemned? I had a friend who got pregnant at sixteen and decided to give birth. We call her Mary. It is easy to guess that it condemned and criticized by all the relatives and friends. Many years passed. Child grows. Yes, and Masha, in spite of everything, was able to realize themselves in the career of a computer designer. Now her life is completely and safely arranged. Baby will soon go into first grade.
Masha is sitting at home and works at a computer, obtaining very good money. Periodically, she meets with young people, going to the movies and on a romantic date, but the marriage did not come out in a hurry. And despite a successful career and prosperous on the whole life, relatives Maria does not cease to complain about her "shattered destiny", "ruined the reputation" and "unforgivable mistake".
-I do not understand how they can judge me - wonders Masha - I am well settled. And anyone looking at my little daughter, will turn the language to call her my big mistake?
So, if your interests and your quiet life threatening someone's conviction, it's time to take active steps! First, analyze your own behavior: not too much you yourself judge others? Most of the situations and emotions operate on the principle: You reap what you sow. Criticism and condemnation, "planted" by you in someone's address is usually returned. So try to treat others more leniently. People are imperfect, and it is absolutely normal. The more you turn a blind eye to others' mistakes and shortcomings, the easier it will go away with your own.
Second, try to forgive people judging you. Let them do it. Do not start to blame them for what they judge you. This will be a vicious circle. Try to understand and forgive. Let's say your mother does not understand how you can meet with a married man. This, in its view, immoral. Is it worth wasting time and nerves on her pereubezhdenie? And why? Let her think on their own, while you remain in my opinion. All people are different, and that is absolutely crazy for one - in the order of things for another. So do not waste time tinkering with his relatives and uphold the idea: you can not judge. It is better to accept the world as it is, and you will see how to simplify your life.
