Invitation to the first interview by telephone
When an unknown man invites a woman for a date, it naturally arises in the mind some of the most common fears. These concerns often create a barrier that man can not overcome, though seemingly came close to victory. When I paid great attention to addressing women's fears, my performance communication by phone has increased dramatically. Appeared some sense of penetration into the feelings of women, an understanding of her fears. In the end, find the approach turned out to be easier. I am often called a girl I do not remember or do not remember. And often queried women on their fears. And they made their main fears. So, the invitation to the first date on the phone and .. women's fears.
Fear is number 1. Rang maniac
Someone rang the bell, she did not know. That's why so many women are asking and trying to persuade a stranger to introduce himself, if he does not want to do this.
"I called a maniac" - this is the first thought that occurs in women when her cell phone calls from unknown numbers guy. And then she says with emotion: "Where did you get my number?"
Recipe 1: to convince her that you're not a maniac. Just tell her: "My name is" the best man in your life "or" I'm calling with good intentions. "
Recipe 2: convinces her that you - a maniac. This recipe is more efficient than the first, but much more risky. When you start to convince people that you - a maniac, he starts to not believe. This paradoxical feature of the psyche. Just say: "Hi, I'm a maniac. I found your number in the phone of his friend to kill you:) "
Gave voice sexuality and see what happens!
On such a model is a charming maniac 95% of women that I personally rang.
Fear № 2. It is not serious, a joke, funny
Often, when a guy calls a girl in a playful manner, she begins to fear that this is a joke that someone has decided to pin on it. And most importantly, she begins to think that privacy may be compromised. So she starts to behave clamped and suspect that your conversation someone overheard. Usually this is felt in a conversation on her tone. She somehow suspicious to communicate with you. And how could not believe that you invite her somewhere. Or playing the fool, and tells you: "Of course, right now, I shall retire and come to your home ..."
Recipe: Tell her in a serious tone: "You know, I have serious intentions, I would like to invite you for a real crowd of interesting people. I need CHARMING companion. You come! "
Fear number 3. This is dangerous, indecent
She is afraid that with you in the company it would be dangerous, that she would have to leave the comfort zone. Remember we have already talked about?
Even if you do it a little bit like you, she may just not want to leave their comfort zone and go hang out in their usual company to their friends, instead of going to a stranger on a date. In addition, she thinks: "Now I'll go with him to his society, and he dragged me to some place where his friends, it is unclear who is and stuff ..."
This fear - one of the options when it hesitates and tries otmazatsya of date or hike with you in a movie. It is important to you persevere.
Recipe 1: Say: "What are you, you've seen me, I have - a decent guy, I would not have called at least unseemly place. There's great out there playing music and good atmosphere! "
Recipe 2: Explain to her that there, where you invite her, many girls. In addition, you can immediately here to raise their social significance, telling her: "There are all decent. There will be a lot of my friends and my friend who invited me there. " The presence of women will dispel her fear that you drag it to the improper place to be your friends who want to arrange with her group action! Yes, do not laugh, it is such thoughts often go to women.
Fear № 4. Suspense
If you invite a girl in his company, you should be aware that it will have the fear of the unknown company and the unknown event. In order to overcome this fear, just describe the situation. Tell us about events that will occur this evening. Briefly. For example, say: "At a party I invited a former classmate. We drink wine and going to dance, have fun. I will be pleased with such a charming companion. "
If the girl is very afraid and said to you about this, can you tell her: "You can take a friend if you like ..."
But bear in mind that it is better that she came alone, rather than with his girlfriend.
Fear № 5. Later, back home
Often, when the girls invite boys on a date to a movie or a party, those buzzing in my head one more question, how and to whom they return home. Especially if you invite her for the evening. Naturally, most women in our post-Soviet reality scared to go home alone. Besides, she thinks: "Maybe he is counting on the fact that I'm going to see him?" It is better to immediately dispel doubts about her and tell her: "I will personally be responsible for your safety and home delivery."
Fear № 6. Uncertainty, it is like a new company
When inviting a girl in the company of friends in a bar where you know everything, or a club, it might concern: "The new company will not accept me." Just say: "There's a nice atmosphere, friendly."
Fear № 7. Shyness, fear of looking foolish, to be superfluous, the fear that it will be boring
This concern arises in cases where you welcome her one on one, and when you invite a girl for a date in a public place or at a party. She is afraid that you expose it fully stupid, throw, or lead the self to it as the last animal. When you eliminate this concern shows that you - the gallant young man, do not give it up and make love to her, her trust and confidence in you increases strongly, and it has much more to be disposed to co-host of time. Just tell her: "I will not leave thee, thou shalt be my companion, I make love to you, I'll be proud if I would come with such a girl."
We have examined the most common fears of women, when she calls the little known man.
1.Pozvonil maniac.
2.It is not serious, joke, joke.
3.Eto dangerous, unseemly.
4.Neizvestnost.
5.Pozdnee return home.
6.Neuverennost she'll like the new company.
7.Stesnenie, fear of looking foolish, to be superfluous, the fear that it will be boring.
We understand how to allay these fears. And in each case, we have analyzed what could be done to make the girl more wanted to be close to you and to maintain communication with you.
