Researchers found that women live longer than men because they are not afraid to openly express their feelings. Vsplaknuv fifteen minutes of a broken nail or a lost cell phone, we can easily remove the stress, which can cause a variety of diseases. The loss of a loved one - is not the loss of a mobile phone. So, you have every right to voice porydat and suffer for their pleasure. If you cast - Unleash emotions!

Arrange one (not more!) "Wet day". Take time off from work. You do not want to hit bosses and clients with red, swollen eyes? Shut thyself at home, turn off the phone (but first warn family and friends that they will not leave you to look for). Porn for the whole hog! Listen to the sad ballads! By experience I can say that perfect last album, Christina Aguilera Back to basics. Revision of some sort of a sad movie like "Titanic" or "Romeo and Juliet." Introduce yourself to the heroine of Shakespeare's tragedy or soap opera. Suffer as much as possible effective.

Can be the mirror! Wring their hands, take picture poses, tear your hair on your head (but moderately, or tomorrow at the sight of his thinning head of hair experience "wet day" will have to repeat). Reveled in their grief. And do not forget at the same time make sure that the mascara under her eyes was spreading a highly artistic, like in the movies! Get it with your boyfriend pictures, remember your love and feel sorry for yourself. But only with the pleasure and the soul. Because you're doing it in the first and last time! Put your own alarm clock, as soon as it the bell, wiping her tears.

"Wet Day" is officially over! Have you started a new life! How, you ask, what is a pathetic cry for a day and all? Yes, my sorrow so limitless, that the tears have to make buckets! Let you and I disagree. It is reasoned, my second cousin when not enrolled in the acting department, which was prepared two years! I asked her to shut up and cry for three hours, and then decide what to do.

- What do you understand this? - Pauline exploded. - Theatre - this is my life! I will never calm down!

I locked her in the room and spotted the time. Half an hour later she began to thrash in the door with demands to release it.

- View! I'm hungry!

- But you said that your grief inconsolable.

- I can not cry anymore! Discover!

The next day she took a kinoagentstvo. Morality is simple: even the biggest loss should not mourn for more than one day. And then suddenly the tears in the body runs out? Dehydration Nobody has benefited!

Complaints and suggestions

When the tears dried up, went to emotions, emotions have cooled, one uninvited guest still refuses to leave you alone ... It's an insult. The insult, which does not give you stretch your shoulders and breathe freely. After the break is very important for this to get rid of all grievances. Many girls harbor anger deep inside. Sometimes so deeply that they forget about it. But unexpressed resentment is very dangerous! It can climb over the years in the form of severe depression and even disease! How to let go of this adverse feeling good?

Take paper and pen and describe what your parting upset you the most. Perhaps his diary. Nayabednichay on her boyfriend. Present all their claims. You hurt that he'll cast the first? Or you found him with another, and even though you are no longer available, still can not forgive him? Maybe his hurtful words to you goodbye, do not give rest and do not go out of your head?. In short, the composition of a book full of complaints. After which a number of suggestions, specifically what you can do to quickly forgive and forget and let go of all negativity.

Variants such as the former track at night in a dark alley and from the heart beat are not considered! For example, my colleague, the journalist, charmingly bitchiness Julia decided to get rid of old grievances with creativity and extraordinary. Seeding over the weekend at home, she cooked homemade satirical wall newspaper. Huge Whatman, A1, was filled with the most unfortunate photo of the former, as well as numerous sharp, caustic, ironic notes and articles. Wall newspaper was a real work of journalism. She helped Julia throw all the accumulated anger.

Another way to deal with grievances - to do with someone as well. Formerly called you a "stupid cow"? Well, you call you because someone else (better for eyes). Now you're even and you're no better than him. If your ex plagued with endless delays on a date and you still get into a huff, thinking of this neglect, you simply must, too, where something being late. To work in the gym for a meeting with a friend. This will teach you to be tolerant to others' differences.

And the third is to get rid of insults - auto-suggestion. Write in a notebook over a thousand times: "I let go of their grievances, I forgive her ex. This may seem tedious to you, but this work is very effective. Repeating the statement many, many times, you will believe in him, and when you believe in it, it will become true. And you will be free!

Out of sight, out of mind!

You're a long time digging in your thoughts and feelings. What have you dug up? Hope for happiness and self-confidence? Or a couple of new sets? It does not matter. It is time to rest. In a far from perfect day you realize that the gap - it is very tedious. You're just tired, tired to think of why it all went wrong, what do you do next and how to behave. Excellent! In this case, now is the time to learn to live without him. "How is it that - you ask - and I what do you think all this time doing?" You lived with the idea that you're not alone. And now you have to try to expel him from his thoughts for ever. For the beginning of the following for themselves. How many times a day do you come up the thought of it? One? Forty? One hundred forty-one? Calculate the exact number.

The next day, you must apply the technique called "Thought Police". As soon as the consciousness penetrates the slightest recollection of the former, immediately productive citizen's arrest, and leads the detainee. Down with nostalgia! Take away everything that reminds you about him: his gifts, his photo, his belongings - everything! Do not listen to CDs that you listen alone, I do not visit places you liked to look. This is an exercise in willpower. It may seem difficult. But the skills will bring you benefits for years to come. When you learn to "arrest" of thought about the former favorite (and in fact they did try to escape from the "police" and again walk around your head, annoying you its persistence), no doubt, you are easily able to drive the thought of high-calorie desserts after six pm .

My former boss, Anna, owns this beautiful technique, said:

- First, it was not easy. I imagine the janitor, who "sweeps" out of my head all the sad thoughts about the ex boyfriend. The first time I thought the janitor and strive shalturit and unwelcome memories litter head, but I do not give up. But now my ability to work - just a byword. You bet! Do you know a lot of staff, particularly among the creative people who can concentrate on the job at a time when the May sun, and attracts the street and everyone else in the office happy to see the crows. It turns out, parting with her boyfriend was a great lesson. I have developed a useful habit, and now my "thought the janitor works great!