If the admirer turned out to be sexual aggressor ...
Fans are different. Sometimes platonic, but more often than men do not pay attention to our beautiful soul, or subtle intellect, and our women's sex appeal ... Yes, yes, the fans are not just platonic, admire us as individuals, lovers on their ears and dream of serious relationships. Very often, we become objects whose desire it, but not always, this fact gives us pleasure.
On the one hand, the presence of a mad fan of your irresistible sexuality should certainly raise self-esteem. Just think: Who is you - real sex symbol, an object of erotic fantasy, the subject of heated lust. Can you straighten his shoulders, puffed out his chest and feel like Pamela Anderson or Angelina Jolie. Only trouble is that, unlike the aforementioned stars, you're more available and, therefore, forced to endure regular sexual allusions, vulgar compliments and frivolous joke from your boyfriend.
Well even if it is limited to words. And what e If admirer turned out to be sexual aggressors and very clearly separates you for sex? How to react and how to behave? First, do not give a reason. Vulgar proverb says that the dog did not jump up if ... some who do not want. Well you know what I mean ... If you let go of frivolity in the face, you have every right to clearly and concisely say that you are not interested.
However, open sexual harassment is not so common. When you are in the open offer fun a night, in which at least has one advantage: you can just as openly say "no." Do not be offended if the fan was too straightforward and, as they say, do not hesitate to call a spade a spade. Try to see in this a positive thing: at least, the man was being honest with you, and frankly stated that he is interested only sex with you.
It would be much worse if he told you about love, flowers load with presents, and promised mountains of gold and a wedding ring for the sole purpose put you in bed, and then vanished without saying goodbye. Much more complicated to deal with such a duplicitous partner, who is thin, like a sly attempt to divorce you on the proximity.
My friend Ira suffered from such podlovatogo type. In person he called it his good friend and even told me that hates it when the friendship between a guy and girl vulgarizes sex. "But in this case - says Ira, - he never missed an opportunity to touch me for protruding body parts and did so with explicit sexual overtones."
After a while Ira started coming to mobile text messages with erotic content from unknown numbers. She has long wondered who it could be. Her husband, meanwhile began to be jealous, believing that Ira relationship with someone. Between them constantly quarrel. In the end, Ira was able to calculate your "friend". Of course, that since they did not communicate. Ira has changed mobile number. You the same advice: the "secret" fans who count on your sexual attention, the best deal as soon as possible. If you feel sexual harassment under the guise of "just friendship", try as quickly as possible to derive rights to clean water.
You can: a) declare that you do not believe in friendship between men and women, and stop to talk and b) ask bluntly: "You want me to sleep?" - Then in the case of an affirmative answer only to dissolve his shoulders and say: "What a friendship ? No, we're not able to maintain a relationship, and in case of negative answer pick and say: "You know, I just hate men who do not want me. Such communication hurts my feelings. Do not call me anymore. " After that, with peace of mind to change the phone number.
