How to understand a little man
At all times, was a controversial issue that is central to the formation of man - innate properties, some sort of predestination, which makes a small bunch of living matter is the one who intended to perform a particular role in life, or important - education, influence of the environment? The answer to this question has many variants, but in the very formulation of his lies the catch. The most important thing that parents should take - is that the unborn child - has personality, but an inexperienced person, not possessing knowledge of world affairs, and do not determine its attitude towards them. How do you know the little man? " The little personality already have your own tool knowledge, its nervous system, which has identical copies, as, indeed, the entire human body. In chromosomal genetic information contained many generations of ancestors, from which has developed a unique combination. Parents, your senses do not deceive you, your child is truly unique, unique and priceless. In physiological terms, this fact is difficult to dispute.
This matrix, which can not be changed. Every day after the birth of a person absorbs information about the world, people, relationships. Impressions of the outer life are processed by this matrix, or entity. The result, that is, the conclusions from the impressions of which is formed by nature, may be polar, depending on the matrix. It's no secret that, for example, the cruelty suffered by some children, some doing merciful and understanding, while others - angry and aggressive. How to determine the result of influences of the world and education - that's the main question, which is the essence of an individual approach.
Who can define it and whether it is possible at all? Of course, pedagogy, educational techniques, knowledge of psychology in general, observation, motivation - all of these methods are quite effective in solving narrow problems, but as the impact on the small figure in the sense of its inner content of this or that educational influence, and sometimes impossible to foresee, if you do it purely logically. And here we come again to the same where to start - no love for the child all educational measures are doomed to failure. Of all the information about the world your child will perceive that the request of its essence. The child and his aspirations are enclosed in it originally. The paradox of education is that the child wants to be the way he wants to be. Change it desires only one way - to let him into their world, to show their aspirations and values, and possibly a small people trust you enough to take them for themselves. Or accept or adopt some other. Everything else - is to explain the rules of the game called life. Of course, people often take them. But this absolutely does not reflect its relationship to either life or to rule itself. Most, as it may seem to some, blasphemous conclusion for parents - help your child become what he wants because he will be just that anyway. All that parents can do - it help or hinder.
Nobody said that education is useless. Education is necessary - it is information about the world, reactions and skills training, provision of his inner world to study and analyze. Selecting and prepodnesenie these data for analysis - parent privilege. That is, our inner world - a tool of education number one. A small remark. If parents imitate him, that is, teach one, and come to another - the information your child will be rejected, and assimilated just important - close to the dishonesty is acceptable. Internal communication of parents and children do not seem to me explicable only tangible, consumer understanding causes.
There is something bigger, of course, and only it helps in understanding the nature of the child and the notion that he needs, and how to find the best approach. Look it up in yourself, and find the key to its continuation. And perhaps, to the meaning of his existence. Fight with his own irritation, do not lie, put yourself more often in place of the child. Look at yourself through his eyes. And most importantly, you need to know - many of the most proper methods and follow all the rules of psychology of no benefit if applied without love. Listen to your heart and follow the mind.
