How to persuade a man to do what you want? Useful tips
You want one, your partner completely different. Sometimes, it seems that you live in completely different universes. How to reach an understanding? Only the wise woman is able to insist on his opinion, and thus convince his wife that in reality, this view of it.
The French proverb says: "What woman wants, that God himself wants to." If this saying has become a reality! But it often happens when the most intimate and dear to people unable to understand you, but even more so, share your aspirations and desires. What can be done in the same circumstances? Beating my head against the wall, screaming, begging, blaming him? We think this method is ineffective - nothing but insults and headaches he brings. But to accept the situation and give up their intentions not a solution either. What can you do?
The fact that women and men are totally different people, no doubt. But in any case can reach a compromise, especially given the particular psychology of men. Below are 5 things typical family life and a kind of guide to action for those who have faced similar situations.
1. Entice him to give the family more time
He was constantly busy, only comes home late at night, weekends, too, spends at work or with friends on a fishing trip. Can I return my husband, "the family" whether you can get it to give you more attention?
So, firstly, it can really be all hands on deck at work, and as a consequence of problems with planning time. But we did know that he who wants to - looking for opportunities, but he who does not want to - reasons. Think about why your spouse does not hurry home after work? He may feel uncomfortable at home, maybe his straining household chores? A lot of men detained at work just to talk about "ICQ" or play computer games.
Your actions:
Try to show your beloved one, how important to you a minute of his attention to you, then the time he spends with his family. Make it so he wanted to spend time with his family to escape after work into their cozy nest, where all his love and understanding. Encourage your child to do in your home area for him, for example, an office, where he can relax or work when the need arises. If you have a computer at home, a sense of peace, why stay on the job?
Try to create a festive atmosphere at home, when you meet her husband from work. It is not necessary to meet him in a dirty robe with a mask on his face. Change clothes, prihoroshites, cook his favorite dish. Then spend some time together - watch a movie, play with your child.
For a man to feel comfortable during the day, he needs 12 touches a day. Often hug husband kiss him, I repeat, what you have this wonderful and beloved.
2. Convince him to have a baby
Do you go shopping for baby and children's watches with anguish veshchichki. And he uses contraception and horror brushes off your timid proposals of the child the words that he is still too early.
He does not want to start a baby, because he's afraid, afraid of new challenges, responsibilities, fears that, distracted by a child, you will give him less time. In addition, it is possible that he simply is not ready to part with her a familiar and stable life, to change their habits. But can he doubt it?
Your actions:
Not worth sazu offended by his refusal, because of such a responsible and important decision in your life you have only come together. Just try to expedite the decision making process.
Maybe your spouse just does not know about your desires. It is important not only to tell him that you want the child but also to explain why it is now necessary to decide on such a step. For example, a doctor told you that right now most favorable for the maternity period, or have the opportunity to go on maternity leave without any problems and so on. It is also worth to listen to his arguments. Try to agree on exactly when you will be able to have a baby, just need to assign specific time - after six months or a year, for example.
Give your spouse the opportunity to understand what these wonderful creatures - children. Try to keep in closer touch to the families who already have children in the arch near the mummies, walk with the children. Often utter the phrase: "But when you have a child." Start now preparing for motherhood - stop smoking, zateyte in apartment renovation, visit the doctor together. Let it also takes part in all these preparations. Making sure how seriously do you think about this idea, maybe your spouse is also "light up".
Remember that the desire to articulate. Women are often silent, believing that a man should himself everything to guess - it's the wrong approach, because often what men have telepathic abilities. Explain what you want. He is against? Any conflict must be solved, and should begin with the question "why are you against it." Try to understand why he says, why does so, why he's against. You need to understand the reasons for his behavior, then you can somehow get out of this conflict. First of all, we should respect the wishes of his partner - he also has the right to whims. It is important to always be prepared to understand. Treat your partner the way you want it to apply to you.
3. Suggest to change jobs
Friends, your spouse's long drive on the machine and your spouse prefers the subway. And not even notice, does not understand that his salary is not enough of anything - nor the fact that family to feed, not to mention a car, apartment. How can I convince my husband that he should change jobs?
First try to understand why he does not want to change jobs - he can not believe in themselves, perhaps afraid of change? Or is he just now going through a midlife crisis. Or maybe its just all so happy? Need to influence him!
Your actions:
Should first decide on the question of why it is so important to you, your partner changed jobs. If the reasons are good enough, it is necessary to start active actions.
Write on a piece of paper all the advantages of your spouse to help him find a new job. For example, my husband - an intelligent, organized, responsible, able to so-and-so. " Hang it on a leaf near the top.
Buy a newspaper on the work and show your spouse how much can get people with his specialty, and education. Tell him how you live after your husband to find a new job. Buy, for example, a new television set, move to a new apartment, go on holiday at the sea, and so on. Create a family atmosphere around you change. Constantly tell him things like "when you will have a new job, and so on. Tell your friends, relatives about what your spouse is looking for a new job. Help him create a resume and post it on Internet sites. Responses that are bound to be, and it will help inspire your husband.
4. Persuading him to buy you a fur coat
No, he's certainly not stiff. Just knows how to economize. Yes, and you are not a capricious lady. Just want to feel like a queen. How to teach your man to pamper your family? Why did not he wants to make a gift to his beloved. Maybe he's just saving money for yourself? Or maybe he genuinely can not understand why you even one-tenth of a handbag, or a regular business suit? Or maybe he sees a hostile reception all your dear wishes simply because unable to pay for them?
Your actions:
If the whole problem is money, or rather lack of them, to look for additional income. And when your man is really greedy, convinced him to fork out.
Try to explain to your partner, why you so want this purchase. Maybe he just does not know that your winter coat is not warm, and you constantly freezes. Can make a compromise - this month, you buy a fur coat, and the next tire for him. Why a fur coat in this month, but because it is just now offering a wonderful coat with a great discount. Moreover, almost any thing can now be purchased on credit, and your spouse will be easier to part with small amounts each month, rather than at once to part with a fortune. And do not forget about the time-tested tricks female - "Well, kitty, you're the best, nicest, most generous." What man could resist this?
5. Insist on using
You live with a lazy, for which household chores do not exist? Or with a very scattered person who can not remember any of your requests? Why is this happening? Well, first of all, all men are stereotypes, such as washing dishes - not men's responsibility. Secondly, it is possible that just affects my mother's upbringing. Well, finally, may be to blame the usual laziness.
Your actions:
No matter how many times have you not told your partner that you need his help - he just nods ... and nothing changes. Try these techniques.
Maximally be patient, and chant his request. Usually 5-6 times enough to man, finally did something.
Start boldly tell all your friends, and acquaintances about how wonderful you have a husband - and farmers, and responsible, and generous. And the irony here is not relevant - lists exactly what it does do, though a little bit. This is a great incentive that will force your husband to become even better.
