How to get back your husband?
Long before the marriage, you probably have created an image of an ideal companion, imagining what qualities he must possess. Now you're gone and, maybe, thinking about to get married again for someone else. But you may be plagued by doubts about re-marriage, because you're afraid that if you marry again, it probably admit the same mistakes. Maybe you created the image of an ideal companion was wrong, but maybe wrong was your assessment of men.
Hopefully, the experience has taught you a very careful approach to choosing a new man before trusting him. But before you go to find a new partner in life, sit on the couch or armchair (suitable and stool in the kitchen) and try to jot down on a piece of paper list the qualities that would like to see a new man. After reading your entries, you will likely find that this man is probably very different from your ex.
After that, try to actually look at things, and throwing all kinds of ambitions, delete all unreal, leaving only the most necessary. If in this case, you created the image of man does not match the image of your ex-husband, then you did the right thing, that just got divorced. Not always, but still quite often very useful for some time to stay with their parents.
Returning to the parental home can open your eyes to the situation. The first few days are usually filled with joy. To treat you as a long-lost relatives and arrange your holiday. A little later (about a week) is set daily routine of life. Since that time the watch is really getting along with each other couples in your family.
Look at their parents. Think about how this mom is reconciled to the fact that some things or glands father lying around the house or the father is reconciled to the fact that his mother saws over trifles. Such conflicts are very illustrative. Over time, you realize: the purpose of their lives to torment each other. Could you make it, be in their place!
So, watching the pair for a pair, you'll find conflicting features that have to tolerate each satellite. Start comparing your circumstances to the life of the real world, rather than with images of ideal and elusive harmony. On the contrary, continuous observation of the pairs could help you re-check their point of view: maybe you would find that your relationship with her husband below average?
Break the bond of marriage can lead to the fact that you will both be treated, together with a more realistic position. Perhaps, once again drawing a look at your spouse, you will eventually become closer to each other. Perhaps you have long been perceived as your husband for granted and, despite the divorce, kept the ability to communicate with him: You have to plan their visits just because he's your husband, and excite his curiosity, passion and desire for you. When something because you liked her husband, and something he was attracted.
If you no longer can maintain an interesting conversation with him, how did you manage to entertain a new friend? Treat her husband as his admirer. Dine with him in the absence of children, wear something to please him, laugh at his jokes, listen carefully to his story about how he spent the day. Arrange in advance to those who care for children. If you can get used to such practical aspects of your meetings, then make it up if you want will be easier, but due to meetings with your husband, you could save your marriage.
Ways to primereniyu ....
After all was said and done, you broke up with her husband, but at heart want to go back. What are your chances? Where to start? What obstacles you will encounter? And it is not useless if this idea? Once he had loved you more than all other women, and for your sake, refused bachelor plaguing. You still remain for him the same loving and still has those qualities for which he has chosen you to life partner. How to get back your husband? again emphasize these qualities. Even taking into account the fact that he has changed, you'll know him better than those women with whom he meets. In addition, you are well imagine what his basic needs, and can use this information to be most convenient companion for him.
He believes that you will behave as were before. You were with him in difficult times, and he knows your dedication. Dedication of new women, he did not check and can not be sure that they will be as reliable as you.
In the range of your relationship he has interests that are not available with other women. You were part of his life, knew his family, you have common children, you together through the difficult times of death of those you loved. Think about these periods of his life to restore the link and relive these events more fully than ever experienced.
Your kids will be happy reconciliation. For the sake of the family support the idea of reconciliation and grandparents, other relatives. Perhaps you spoke unkind words to her husband. Do you still have a chance to return it, if your attack did not differ outright hostility. However, no matter how angry you behaved towards him, you have several ways to try to make amends. No matter how corny it sounds, but everything can be explained.
1. You fought like a tigress as well as losing a life partner. It was your initial instinct - to protect yourself, family and your home.
2. You love him so much that the thought that someone else has it for a moment brought you crazy.
3. You followed the advice of the man whom you respect. Now understand that the council was ridiculous and rather hurt you than help.
4. You were in an unusual condition.
5. Was it during menstruation or menopause, but something affected you adversely. Have you ever experience anything like that, and you can not understand why it behaved.
6. You thought that my husband has committed a despicable act against you, and so violently reacted to his actions. You have misinterpreted his actions or wrong, behaving with him defiantly. Now you know that he does not deserve your anger.
7. Let him know that you're sorry about the fact that they were wrong. He is hoping for the best, can understand why you behaved so vindictively. Perhaps it will behave cautiously until, until you feel relaxed.
8. Since the recent past was unpleasant for him, remind him of what passed for a long time and that you have experienced together, talk more about the present or future. You are at some time destroyed many tender memories, so think about how to create his new strong pleasant experience to overcome the trouble.
Your companion is a favorite pastime, which you can use to create the ground for new memories. Let him know that you both have too many experienced together to quarrel now. Try to assign the next meeting no later than one week. In the last period of your life together, especially at a time when you were living separately, you have become strangers to one another. Now it has emerged some new ideas and experience that you do not share. Are you interested in how to make peace with your husband? Communicate more with him. You want him to talk to you freely, so that nothing is hidden? Try to establish a close relationship with him, asking him how he spent a day and, more importantly, listen with interest what he says.
After the divorce, you might thinking, but could you please restore the marriage? It is believed that love and marriage are inextricably linked, but linking these two concepts creates trouble for most of us. In addition to the love of many other senses are so much a part of a successful marriage. Yet you rarely hear of these combinations - the anger and marriage, boredom, marriage, lust and marriage, sacrifice and marriage, duty and marriage. Although such a range of emotions is natural in marriage. Do not doubt my love for her husband only because they are angry or bored or you have negative thoughts about marriage.
