Loved one - is sacred. Sometimes we are so obsessed with their feelings, not to notice how our own spouses begin to undermine our interests. How to find a compromise between love and its benefits? " My friend Max - a young man with a stunning appearance, five years as a computer designer, while he lived in a civil marriage with a pretty flight attendant Olesya and was very satisfied with life, until one day he noticed the figure of the invoice Scouter an advertising agency.

Maxim offered to star in commercials, and he agreed for the sake of laughter, especially as the money it promised good. Unfortunately, the scenario Maxim had to kiss the blonde model, which, of course, could not please his wife Olesya. But it was too late to retreat. Movie was filmed and then aired. And on Max showered with new offerings. Bad was only then that Olesya, which until then seemed tactful and understanding girlfriend, suddenly turned into a jealous shrew. She rolled her scene by scene. First, it banned Maxim shoot a love scene, and he agreed. Then she began to insist that he did not participate in the trailers, where girls are involved. Then demanded not show a naked torso. Toward the end she announced that she will accompany him on the set, and then completely asked to withdraw from this business, giving up lucrative offers ...

If your other half puts you in the same uncomfortable conditions, infringing your rights are more and more, do not suffer and did not remain silent, hoping that one more concession on your part has finally put an end to perpetual conflict. Surely you've heard the expression: "Give her finger - she bites her hand on his elbow." This is the case. Sit down at the negotiating table. Try to find a compromise. Your task - to understand what your job / hobbies / friends / lifestyle does not suit your half? Need to detect and neutralize the true cause of his / her experiences. In the end, do not hesitate to ask for something in return. If you are asked to give up something, ask what you get for it, or, in other words, in favor of something you abandon your belief? For example, say: "Well, I will not be three hours chatting with Lenka on clothes, but in return I want you did not leave on Saturday for night fishing. Or vice versa: "And let me not be to abandon his hobby: belly dance, but because it'll let you come to my classes or aikido."