How to decipher the psychological meaning of gifts

The same thing can be presented as attendant gifts or as an exclusive, specially selected for the man show. What gifts can tell? And, preparing a surprise, not to fall into an awkward situation?

Statistics say that on average a year ago about three thousand gifts, surprises, spending on them about 5% of its budget. We give gifts to their relatives, friends, colleagues and so on. We give gifts on significant occasions, minor, and without any provocation. What can cause us to rush to the shops in search of those things that we often allow ourselves simply unable to? Psychologists distinguish at least seven reasons why we are doing each other gifts:

1. Pay tribute to tradition. It is unlikely that we can afford to come to visit without a gift, or at least, a souvenir.

2. See ratio. Character gift, its cost, a way of presenting can tell bestowed on those feelings that we feel for him.

3. Get something in return. Prezent very often becomes the key, some insurance that some service will be implemented.

4. Gratitude. is a kind of gift card for some favor, bestowed in us.

5. Have a token. This lovely gifts that we often bring travel.

6. Cheer up. It is often said that giving gifts better than to receive. This is the case, when the joy of the person receiving a gift, cheer us up.

7. Remind me about yourself. Flowers for a birthday, a present or a friend who lives in another city or country - so we can remain invisible in the lives of our loved ones.

The list is by far incomplete. One thing is clear: a gift you can say a lot, sometimes a lot more than words.

Guess desire!

Some people like to get practical, functional gifts and seriously upset when the money, in their view simply thrown to the wind by buying a statue or picture frames. But they're always glad to get something out of household appliances, for example, or better yet - an envelope with money. We call such kind of people practices.

The other type of people, romance, prefer to receive lovely gifts, songs, or a trip to Paris, or at least outside the city. Electric meat grinder as a gift they will certainly upset.

There is another type of people - aesthetes, important to them the beauty of the gift. So better to give paintings, antiques, or something like that. Different people have different gifts to assess, at a price of utility, beauty, but the main sign of a good gift is its consistency with the inner essence of the person to whom it is intended.

Grievances may arise when a donor gives to and belong to different types. Guarantee for a good gift - to determine to which particular type is the type of person a gift that you choose. As a rule, people give what they wanted to get a gift for yourself. This method is one of the most faithful. But what if you give all the time is not something that you like?

Create a tradition

Every family has the tradition of giving gifts, and there are often problems when creating a new family. So, my husband used to getting practical gifts, and on all holidays gives his wife a kettle, the glasses, then vacuum. Wife, by contrast, was used to approach the process of gift from an aesthetic point of view. What her surprise when her husband was not happy new cufflinks and tie clip. Output, they found - now go shopping together and hinted to one another that they would receive as a gift. Each family creates its own traditions, but the main thing should always be - a really good only genuine gift, and no matter what it is plush toy or the latest Mercedes model. Make sure also that your children understand that the price of a gift is not equivalent to the relations between people.

Showing character

When choosing a gift, we show the main features of his character. One will make every effort to make roads, solid gift. For such a person is most important status and opinions of others - often speaks about low self-esteem, about a certain propensity to demonstrative. Another, on the contrary, would not specifically to spend on a gift, and especially not choose to be, will get something more or less decent, he will buy it. But for myself will not skimp. It is obvious that for such a person is in first place of his ego. Meanie who never spend an extra penny on the other. There are still people extraordinary, having vivid imagination. That's worth waiting for from such unusual of gifts, as well as the original method of gift giving. Those who generously presents, love to receive in return the same bright and original gifts. Which type you would not treat one thing is clear, the choice of gift, especially before a big holiday when you want to bestow a large number of people - it is certainly stressful. Is it possible to minimize it?

Algorithm donation

No matter how tedious it may seem to you a lesson, but requires the purchase of gifts should be the most rational, that is, ahead of time. In his budget should allocate 5% advance for gifts and save the money and it is for gifts. So, for the New Year, for example, you can save quite a decent amount. About a month before the holiday to make a list of people you are going to bestow and to find out that they want. Compile a list of alleged gifts - for each candidate two or three gifts, which will subsequently choose.

We should not forget about universal gifts that will please absolutely anyone - Alcoholic drinks, good varieties of coffee or tea, gift editions of books and so on.

Do not forget to pack your beautiful gift, so you can deliver a fun person to another - the expectation of a surprise. And last but not least - handing a gift. After all, the same gift can foist, vaguely muttered something like "congratulations", and you can make a little show, which certainly takes all the fun.

In order not to be trapped

In every life we certainly are situations when there was embarrassment when giving or accepting a gift. Learn how to leave with honor from such situations.

- If you've been looking for something original, but your gift is not appreciated. Do not worry, maybe after a while it still appreciated. But even if not, nothing bad will happen, it is their right - but because you tried to, hence, your guilt in this.

- You do not get what they wanted. Maybe you just could not bring to a partner, what would you like to receive. Do not worry, there is a lot of holidays, most importantly, do not forget to say that all the same you want.

- Gift to hurt you, you feel that you just spihnuli useless thing. Well, this gift is only on the conscience of the giver, and you should not worry, not poorer, in the end.

- You have received a gift, but instead, nothing prepared. Generally, it is better to make a gift store in advance. But if you do not have time, just sincerely rejoice to make gifts. Does not cost anything to try to explain. Give her a gift later, okay.

- You give the gift less or worse than you. Should not be assessed for their gifts of value, then simply because you can share and cash. Remember, it is important to attitude, not the cost.

-Guests come without a present. Even a child does not have presented. Pretend that everything is fine - let it be on their conscience. But you can still easily and revenge, also will appear to visit them and empty-handed.

- You forgot the birthday of his girlfriend. Read the rules of etiquette - a gift can be presented within 10 days after birth.