How to deal with their wealth does not?
Let's you see, what is the downside? This is what we in themselves do not like what we consider our flawed, imperfect. But once a person is born without faults, we will acquire them in the process of life. Our mirror serve other people, they notice our imperfections (or what they consider to be imperfections), and we are dependent on its stability or instability of planting them in ourselves, we begin to believe that others are right, and grow the complexes. There is another option: significant biases for you people - parents, relatives, mentors who endlessly assert that good and bad. Respecting them, you imitate them and eventually accept these settings as your own. This topic we discussed in the chapter "What is the attraction?".
Everyone is imperfect. However, our imperfections - it's what distinguishes us from other people. You really do pay attention that people believing in themselves, attract attention. This does not mean that they have no weaknesses, they just love themselves and take just the way it is, without embellishment, without attempting to look someone else. There are two ways how to fight with their wealth is not :
1.Tschatelno hide their shortcomings.
2.Prevratit what you consider your weaknesses, raisins, traits that are only with you, especially, makes you unique.
Dangerous than the first way? Assume that you have met the half. When you begin to live together, then comes the stage of grinding, you know, with what you are willing to tolerate and what you do not like in a partner. But if you have a lot to hide, so as not to upset someone close to not spoil and does not violate the existing atmosphere, then over time you realize that you do not know for who you really are, not only will you feel very unfree ! For example, imagine that you will always have to hide their jealousy or birthmark on his leg ... it's a constant tension and fear to be opened!
And then you start to reveal secrets. Partner accepts your application reluctantly, because, firstly, it is to you (or rather, to your "poster") was used, and secondly, he chose something that suits him for many qualities, focusing not on you this, but your "billboard". The family begins a difficult period: a revolution takes place and you can save the relationship to change in yourself that you carefully concealed, or you realize that you are tired of wearing a mask, to tolerate and accept the fact that you do not fit, then the relationship ends. Able to finish, this option: there is an agonizing decision partners that they hide from each other, but this is only if the relationship is so valuable that the partners are ready to learn to accept others.
Despite such difficulties of mutual acceptance, remember that it is not necessary to devote his life to the eternal search for an ideal, or bringing himself to the absolute. You have unique and inimitable by nature. Anything that you think his shortcomings, is your distinctive feature. Try to change our attitude to what you yourself do not like to emphasize the natural beauty that you gave Mother Nature. Despite the fact that we affirm that every person is beautiful in its own way, we can not exclude that in society there are stable, opinions, expectations and even the standards that guided both women and men. We are confident that you already possess everything necessary to attract people, but for various reasons have banned themselves enjoy their own attractiveness.
