According to surveys of psychologists, 48% of women suffer at work from unnecessary conflict and unfair manipulation of colleagues and management. There is a special category of people who enjoy pressing the secret springs of the soul of others

Truly manipulators - the great puppeteers. They pulled us on a string, like a puppet, and we only obey their will. But the paddles - it's not a secret sect, which owns the secret knowledge about the thoughts and hearts of men. Moreover, in life we are often consciously or unconsciously act as manipulators. There are people who love to pull the strings and control the behavior of people for their own purposes. How do you find the arm and protect myself? Just do not panic!

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Try to figure out on what could have played a manipulator, a key to pick up your soul? Many compare the impact of manipulative with tingling strings of a guitar or a harp or a violin, as you like. Can be manipulated, pulling for a particular string. Think about what strings could play your own personal villain, because only you have complete information about yourself loved.

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How the manipulator can "pinch" these strings? To define it very simply, to observe her family or for the passengers inside the bus. Acts of manipulation can be short, but the essence remains the same. So, imagine a crowded bus. Phrase: "Man, what do you sit!" This healthy, and give place to the old woman can not. You have a disability or something? Or just slightly to stand up and show off the normal peasant? " This kind of manipulation is called "pinch bottom" or "take on the weak." The same bus, the text looks different: "Man, we see immediately that you are a decent person and give place to the old lady. You are so courageous, and what you have biceps, any bodybuilder would envy!" This manipulation is called "Pinch the top" - a higher level of technology, designed to exaggerate the merits of a man tickling his sense of importance. Just do not confuse this with the banal compliments and flattery. "Pinch the top" makes a person play the role that currently benefit from the manipulator. Manipulator emphasizes its importance, which the victim is forced to confirm every word and action. Here are some phrases which quite often operate office "friends" and colleagues:

"Thou art such a professional, spend the summit!" Big Eight "rest!"

"You are all so well organized, I'm sure you make time for this little project."

As you can see, this arm at all "pinching" the string at the top. But if you are ambitious, then you probably will act "Pinch the bottom." Manipulator to get you out of balance, and knock the prop from under his feet he can following phrases:

'It seems that you requested to develop a nuclear bomb, and not to print three sentences. "

"The five-year child today understands a computer! Only our" good girl "Tanya still can not figured out where the right keys!"

What techniques are used paddles? The most "visible" - compliments and flattery, blackmail and aggression. More subtle - Join the credibility to his opinion (CEO believes that ...). Supposedly random phrase: "Oh, escaped, but do not tell anyone," is designed for what you zaglotnete bait and take advantage of false information.

It will not work!

Knowing a few general rules to respond if you feel manipulative effect.

Emotional reaction . If you feel that the game is and you try to manipulate, refer to the mind and ask yourself: "How do I feel?" He's trying to manipulate? "I wonder at what he caught me?" I feel that a string of fault, yeah, got my boy! "

Deep breath - just breathe stomach.

Funny formula. Knowing a few phrases that you can repeat mentally, looking at it as trying to arm:

"Why do not immediately go to the zoo? Tbi there would not really stand out."

You should have long cast their brains on trial for what they do not help you. "

"A minute ago I did not know you, and it was the most beautiful moments in my life."

Techniques and methods of handling a lot. There are several types of skilled manipulators. If the manipulations remain undetected, it threatens the developments on the negative scenario. Manipulator verifies the effectiveness of their scheme, and therefore continues to use it. But now we are armed and we know what to do!