Formation of a child's self-esteem
Often parents ask the child life scenario. However, the child should live on his own script, to focus on contemporary social scenario. To do this, parents need to establish the child's adequate self-esteem, self-confidence in their abilities and educate a child's self-esteem. If the parents have made in educating your child of the above problems, to a high degree of confidence we can say that the child productively interacting with others and positively perceive the world around us.
Wishing that the child was confident in their abilities, parents should not speak badly about your child and not to allow the child speak badly about yourself. Remember the expression: "Never speak badly about yourself, for you it will make your friends". You can use the tips Levi on how to love yourself: stop themselves evaluate, take yourself for granted, not to compare yourself with others, because each person - personality.
In recent years, psychologists have actively used the term "self-concept," implying the perception of man himself. Parents should be involved in the formation of positive self-concept in the child. To this end, the house is necessary to create an atmosphere of trust, to show interest in the problems of the child, encourage him to speak openly about their feelings, sympathize and empathize. A shy child should be confident that parents will not make fun of him, and will be what it is, with all the advantages and disadvantages, without showing a momentary desire to change something in the child's life.
Keep in mind that the above-said does not mean that parents should not pay attention to negative aspects of a child's behavior, and need only to understand the difficulties which the child is facing. No need to unconditionally trust the opinions of others about your child. First, you need to figure out what caused the negative behavior of the child. I shy kids low self-esteem. Forming a child's self-esteem can be achieved along the following tips:
1) often praise the child, telling him compliments. If your child is really shy, then perehvalit it is virtually impossible. Keep in mind that praise must be fairly and honestly;
2) Provide your child the situation of success, which put before him the real problem;
3) should not "break" the child, it is only important to try to change his behavior, for that plant the necessary social skills;
4) all known methods reduces the level of anxiety. including through relaxation techniques;
5) to develop communication skills of the child;
6) Do not allow your child to ridicule.
From an early age parents should take care of shaping a child's self-esteem. We must help the child to see in their own individual strengths, especially if something does not work. In this situation, can help to receive "a reincarnation of another person" when a child says a strange voice (such as the school director or old), provides unusual for him / her, etc. Do not prohibit the children to express their own opinion, although adults are often just it's not like it. Keep in mind that you are completely dependent on the child is passive, and his shyness may become painful form.
