In the family we become dependent on each other and subtly feel the energy and emotional partner. If in ancient times a man could give a damn about women's views, but now do not hardly ever. What was before? Prehistoric lady, surrounded by children with same age, sitting in a cave. Fearful of anything in the world, waiting for her husband, who had gone with other men of the tribe to hunt, has filled the mammoth ate there, this mammoth, and remembering the offspring and their female, dragged her, too and have a foot in the cave. Naturally, in this case, a man that wants that and make my woman. An ancient woman was able to attract a man, "fix" to yourself, make sure that he fed and defended it, not only during pregnancy, but as long as she feeds the child and the child holds down her social life. Indeed, the survival of offspring is very important security and nutrition in the first three years of life, so perhaps there is a perception that the love lives of four years.

With the woman I love a man can have sex many times in a row. Nature has arranged so that almost all men are willing to copulate in a day even with an unloved woman. It is connected with the amount of accumulated ejaculate, which requires its release, and the hormonal regulation of man's body, and sex education, which makes him a more active role than we would like. If a man finds his wife a bitch, if it is every day "crap" in his soul, "sawing" of his rusty saw, it does not interfere with their sex lives just at first. It can silently tolerate her behavior, but then unconsciously in protest will begin to break the biological mechanism of erection and ejaculation, it has a rapid ejaculation or even disappear excitability.

The reasons for which reduce sexual desire

If you are late in the evening walk through TV-channels, you will surely stumble upon the erotic scene. Incredible fervent passion with which they make love on screen is impressive, exciting and makes you wonder about their own vain attempts under the blanket. True, just want to stipulate that many of these scenes are annoying. In this chapter I propose to consider, and if your sex is like a romantic and passionate TV-version of love? And if sex excites your imagination? According to statistics, low libido - one of the most common disorders in the intimate sphere. In studying this question, scientists are faced with unexpected difficulties. It turns out, we go to any tweaks and tricks to create the appearance of a happy sex life. And the lack of desire does not affect the regularity of sexual activity. Sexopathologists isolated in sexual relations three phases: desire, arousal and orgasm. At the same desire and arousal - the psychological state, and the orgasm - the physiological process. However, if the partners peace and understanding, health is OK, but sex is not interesting, it can happen for several reasons. So why is decreased libido ?

1. Wrong way of life

The most devastating factors affecting the loss of libido are physically normal and healthy partner - sleep deprivation, poor diet and sedentary lifestyle. Anything that harms the state of health, influences the emotional side of sexual life. How to solve this problem? Need to take care of yourself, and you will feel a surge of sexuality. Sleep at least eight hours a day, eat healthy foods and exercise. Coaching - the easiest way to save the pristine feeling. They help the body maintain hormonal balance and proper metabolism, elevate mood and enrich the feeling during sex, because it strengthens pelvic muscles and flexibility. If you suffer constant fatigue - find out what are the reasons for its emergence. Pass a blood test, pass a study on the subject of the thyroid gland and other chronic diseases. If the body is normal, enjoy a wellness treatments.

2. Hormonal changes

In women, reduction in estrogen levels that occurs between thirty and forty-five years, affects all three stages of sexual activity. Allocated less than the "grease", and vaginal muscles are not so resilient. Deficiency of estrogen and testosterone is difficult to make a purely psychological "I want!". Hormonal swings - one of the main barriers of sexuality, so they must be strictly controlled. How to solve this problem? Must be tested for blood levels of sex hormones and thyroid hormones. Based on the results you will be referred either to the endocrinologist, or a sex therapist. In the old days, of course, people also suffered from similar changes in the body. Traditional medicine recommends that women heather broth: 1 teaspoon dried material to a glass of boiled water. Infuse for 20 minutes and take three to four cups a day. After a while a woman's libido starts to recover on the basis of accumulated sexual energy. As soon as the balance of the lost energy is normalized, then the woman is a renewed interest not only to sex, but life in general.

3. "Expectation failed"

The men also have problems, but they are beginning to pay attention to it only when there are problems with erection. There are two types of erection: an involuntary and conscious. Involuntary - Spontaneous. If it happens at night, men are taking it more or less normal. Conscious, that is called at the request or according to the fantasies of men. Occur when at least the slightest problem, most men tend to panic and instead calmly analyze the events begin to consult with friends who had nothing intelligible can not answer. But be even more frightening man. An erection is considered normal if it is sufficient for the introduction of the penis in the male sex organ women without much trouble, even with his hands, which is done in most cases. This is perfectly normal. In this case, men should remember that random encounters of failures can be bovlshim than with a regular partner.

4. Fears, sexual energy-absorbing

One of the main causes of disorders of libido - the fear of possible failure. Men concomitant factor - the lack of an erection. There is a category of men who do not have enough energy to vozzhelaniya sex. Women have such a fear also exists, but it is usually ratsionalistichen and hidden under the various options excuses like "I'm so tired at work that my sexual desire simply disappeared." What in this case will help? Of stress, fear and fatigue, there are many drugs, but better at your own risk not to swallow pills, and seek advice from your doctor. I probably repeat myself, but still give advice on the correct way of life. Need to rest, and quality. This bath, and massage. After a period of sexual hunger that you must use to restore lost power and total attention to your health, your sexual energy is restored.

5. Depressive-like states

Clinical forms of the present depression occur at women much more frequently than men. In such a state of a woman at all, or almost no sexual desire. Moreover, sometimes the thought of sexual contact is discouraged, watery eyes (tearing), irritation. Lack of libido may be a harbinger of impending mental anguish. Among the factors, warnings - lasting up to two weeks of depression, anxiety, loss of interest in any whatever type of activity, including sex. This should occur at least five of the following signs:

a) The disorder of sleep or appetite.

b) changes in weight.

c) breakdown.

d) Inability to restore power.

e) Irritability.

e) Feelings of guilt or feelings of loneliness.

g) The inability to concentrate.

h) Constant thoughts about the end of life or the futility of life.

How can we solve these problems? If you are familiar some of these symptoms, consult a therapist who you can trust.