Crying and tears the language of childrens communication
If a baby is "overload" of impressions, it is difficult to understand and assimilate a large amount of information received "digest" it, he starts to act up, crying. We need to talk to him about his impressions, try to find out what irritates him or, conversely, are interested. If it is something unclear, do not dismiss, try to explain it to him so that he understood. In no case can frighten and deceive the child. The shock caused by fright, could be detrimental to his psyche, he may begin to stutter, twitch, will be afraid of the dark, loud noises, the room in which no one else. If a kid is naughty and crying, in any case, do not be wolves, witches and other scary characters, it can lead to mental illness.
Sometimes the baby may cry because he was just bored. Try to cheer him up. Offer him something to do, do something together. Engage the child. Have a look at a picture book, play in something eventually, just hang out with him. Very often parents dismiss children on the grounds that his fatigue employment. All this may be enough to end in tears. He closes in itself, nurse a grievance, and you risk losing not only his confidence, but in general the child as a person. As I pointed out above, there is a category of children who cry more than others obviously, and it appears at first glance, without any reason. Parents have a constant concern for these children. But how to help them? Simple and universal prescription here. However, we can say with certainty that the sensitivity and vulnerability are the signs of mental make-up of these children, the properties of their nervous system.
Change these innate features at will can not. Especially not here to help, and might even yield a negative result, such funds educational influence as persuasion, blame, punishment, shouting taunts. Any violent action will cause an increase in stress and anxiety, further weakened nervous system of the baby taken away the strength and confidence. Even the most loving parents can not protect their child from life's troubles, one can not always keep the child in a glass case. Therefore, the simplest tactic in dealing with such children - do not be irritated by their cries. And here to stay next to them - the best tool for their calm. Let him feel that you are willing to help him, because it is so important to him.
Try to switch his attention to something else, give some specific task that it interested in the baby and, of course, was under his power. In short, most importantly, what is required of parents - is patience. Do not forget that the high emotional sensitivity is closely related to responsiveness, kindness, sincerity, willingness to help, to defend the weak, and this is a very valuable human qualities! Therefore, as strange as it sounds, listen to the baby crying, hearken to its meaning, but do not try as quickly as possible to interrupt him, to drain childish tears. Lamentation and tears - the language of children's communication , so do not be deaf to him only because unlearned to speak it themselves.
If a child is afraid of strangers, of course, he expresses this through tears. Fear of strangers - a typical form of maladjusted behavior of the baby. It was at this time, he is in dire need of your support, understanding and protection. Quiet, family friendly atmosphere helps release tension and allows relatively easy to cope with the problem. Child's world is still largely limited to the walls of the house, patio or kindergarten, so the appearance of strange faces causes alertness baby. If a stranger behaving harmlessly from his point of view, for example, does not touch his toys, not enough in an armful of his parents, alertness gradually goes away. Otherwise, it can escalate into panic and even persistent phobia.
Well, when parents are sensitive to this issue. Hence, they would not allow himself to commit violence against a child only in order to demonstrate in front of friends their achievements in education of the younger generation. If your baby cries, do not rush to call a doctor or napichkivat his pills and potions, just pat him on the head. Warm soft hands touched the baby's mother, stroked his back, stomach, breast, lingered a little longer on the forehead, and the baby calmed down. Stunning effect, right? But there is nothing unusual. Since ancient times, it is known that massage has a calming effect, especially if it makes a mother. It is as if the kid sends his warm, calm, and he stops crying and cranky. Showing maximum patience and attention in the future you will be rewarded for that health and welfare of their child.
