Challenging task is to man in industrial relations, apply or avoid the need to criticize, as to do without criticism or at least minimize its negative impact! Criticism in most cases, useless and even harmful. It will inevitably prejudice pride criticized, forcing him to justify and defend. Criticism can not teach anyone anything. Criticism can only offend. But on the other hand, without accented attention to errors and can not do what should be in such cases, criticism - is unclear. It is human nature to blame the circumstances, subcontractors, colleagues, and anything and anyone - not just yourself! If you have the force of circumstances can not avoid criticism, remember - that you will not deal with logical reasoning creature, and with the emotional notorious and movable in their actions with pride and vanity of the individual, however, the same as you yourself!

Criticizing is not tricky and accessible, easy to condemn and complain - and most fools do. Striking in its accuracy phrase: - "Who's the best football referee? (Reply) Spectator! That he is just a connoisseur of football rules, completely devoid of prejudices! "In order to show understanding and be condescending, requires a strong character, composure and sense of rightness. If you are going to somehow convince the other, remember the circle of his business interests. It can not move to reject or criticize his proposed idea. Say that offered a good idea, but it must wait in the wings. Remember, even the wise saying - "What makes sense to talk fool that he is stupid? Because of this, he will not become smarter, but just be offended! "You can replace the word" stupid "insert any other definition of a negative nature and meaning of this statement is always preserved (lazy mediocrity, meanie, etc). Criticism will not be teaching functions, it is only able to ascertain, skip the wrong decisions or actions. Criticism is inevitable "hurt" feelings criticized and is able to destroy all initiative.

Constructive criticism

It is my deep conviction, the addition of "constructive" criticism of the word does not change, in fact, absolutely nothing. Could there be a criticism not constructive? It seems such a critical rejection of anything with a complete lack of constructive called a completely different word, perhaps because of profanity. Of course, we can delude ourselves that criticism, too, may express approval, if its purpose - to help others. Even such an idea should probably cover up negative criticism. Constructive criticism - is the remedy that helps to change and develop. Such criticism helps us to understand how others evaluate our operations or actions. Or only in the case of the critic - "helper", if deeply hidden in the form of discussion and provided the initiative of this discussion is based on who should be let and constructively, but to criticize!

Ability to constructively criticize allow us excellent fire with people. This means the ability to motivate staff to write to you to discuss (with constructive criticism). But do not get carried away, even constructive criticism, it is often perceived as a humiliating act. Maybe someone agrees with this approach, but if not it be easier to do nothing to resort to hiding the discussion and not rely on the "miraculous" way arose the initiative - "pokritikuyte me constructive", but in the form of discussion! Criticism, in principle, can successfully replace the advice or to discuss how the ideas themselves, and errors, and then under the condition that the initiative will be owned or doubting this mistake. Another important condition with no conflict of discussion or counseling is confidential!

Do not argue - be sure

To argue or persuade? What's the difference? Really - is negligible. And in a dispute, we use the arguments and defend their own opinions, and in the process of convincing mechanisms for the same. Yet the difference is significant. Arguing, you're standing on the hard-line stance own beliefs, and your task as uncompromising - insist on being right! Persuasion as a process involves reasoned debate and the search for truth or compromise. Cricket arguments. In the team we often see, that does not think alike. Sometimes it is provoking conflict factor. We can not agree with what another person thinks differently, and certainly want to ensure that he changed his point of view.

Ability to argue freely facilitates joint work group. If you want others to change their views, you first need to figure out why he has such a position. Consequently, the arguments needed to convince, they can only be found in the study of divergent views and ideas. Means "way" to believe is through the unconditional introduction and analysis of competing ideas, views and opinions! If the build work on the basis of equal competition of ideas, inexperienced leader afraid "to lose", strong as always have time to put yourself in the position of creative, fair, or pinch the initiative of the head! So that the position of true leadership remains unshakable!