Childrens tantrum
Of course, when our child was "rolling up the scene in a public place, we are doubly embarrassing - and even the people who became unwitting witnesses to the caprice of our little children. The best way to stop a tantrum in this case - to pick up the baby in his arms and carry him out of the room into the air. Most often, the child calms down as soon as the cool head. But there were occasions when children hysteria is gaining momentum - the kid has expressed to us their strong indignation and disappointment - just think, Mom and Dad did not fulfill this very moment my desire! Here, one solution - give the child "blow off steam", and then he calms himself. The main thing that parents need to remember - anger and aggression towards the baby only contribute to the escalation of the conflict and make a child think that he does not love, because it misbehaves.
And when they return home, try to sort of role-playing game - let your child will have dad and my dad - a capricious child. 'll Play event that happened to you. Certainly, seeing the part as freakishly behaving "son," Your baby from the position of the pope to condemn such behavior. Thus, with the help of game situations, you can gradually introduce the child with the accepted value systems in society.
Meet a child with fairy tales, and try to choose those that are good and bad characters. Let your child express his attitude toward them. Pinpoint the crumbs on the fact that, in the end, evil will always be punished. Define their attitude to a particular fairy tale hero, your baby will be easier to evaluate and regulate their conduct in certain situations. That's right, with the help of specific examples, your child will be easier to understand for ourselves what "good" and what is "bad."
The fact that evaluate a particular situation the kid is extremely difficult. In this regard, he unconditionally accepts on faith the word adult, with any words. Consistent level of development of three - four kid is not able to think in abstract categories. His fate at this stage - the specific concepts. Therefore year-old boy say that he is bad - means nothing to him to say. But if you explain that it's bad because it had a fight with a girl on the playground, it's possible he will be able to understand you and take your words into consideration.
Crumbs available figurative words and expressions. His words astonished, abandoned in the hearts of angry mom: "You got me into the grave svedesh" or "out of you nothing good ever happens!". The kid who is inclined to analyze, immediately take an interest: "And how I love you bringing? The handle? And how it - worthwhile? ". You immediately regret it in their words, because they would be better if the kid does not hear. In the worst case scenario, your clever child can understand that the words my mother humiliating for him. He can really take offense, to feel the pain of your careless words.
And what are the words "I love you no longer love you", uttered in response to a childish prank. These words you can say, especially without thinking about their meaning, and for the little guy, they can be catastrophic. A moment ago he was loved, caressed, hugged and kissed him, and suddenly, because of some little things from his point of view, it deprives the most important thing in his little life - parental love! In order to feel comfortable in a huge and frightening world, the baby must be sure that Mom and Dad will love it, no matter what happens, and regardless of how he behaves.
