The fate of the child to 100% depending on whether there next to him at least one adult who day and night is responsible for it, thinks about his future and the future challenges, ready to put all his affairs for the sake of her child. If such an adult is not, then many, the most equipped foundations and community organizations can not compensate for the lack of "towing the dolphin." The child will always fail, drop out of your attention, and the result does not feel it necessary, abandoned.

Syndrome of "Bleak House", psychological, emotional distance and lack of regular communication between mother and child lie at the basis of abandonment. Today, children's shoots are taking place because the children no one and nothing keeps the house. Psychologically untied kids can get into any company, anywhere in history. They have no internal control over behavior, because no one carries out the external. Nobody teaches them to systematically manage their behavior, to plan their actions and to combine their interests and the interests of the family.

Ill-treatment of parents with children - the most obvious reason to escape today's children. Ill-treatment was before, and physical punishment are used systematically to 10% of households. But today, violence has increased due to the fact that parents living in conditions of prolonged stress associated with the need to undertake additional efforts to find work, arrange housing. In addition, for most parents the children were a burden, as said before, over his mouth. Background factor is poverty. According to statistics, two-thirds of children now grow up in families with low income and experiencing it is very painful. They include television, see a luxurious life and fled from the house, thinking that running to the fullness and richness.

Another good reason - reducing liability for the child from the school and the whole of the former pipeline socialization (circles, sections, etc.). And the family over the years has become less favorable. She often can not cope with the task of parenting, especially if it is hard just to feed and clothe their children. 25% of kids today have experienced the divorce of parents. Previously, the family was let the oppressor, but strong - for the public, it should be. We have suffered from an excess of guards around. Now there are none at all. Employment of children was a deterrent to escape. Today is a very good family, of course, drive the child to a music school, dance studio, but most do not have the money and time.

Classification of causes of escapes

Pilot escapes. A child imagines how he will live if the parents die suddenly or die. Behind these fantasies hidden fear for themselves, fear of adulthood, a sense of insecurity. These runners-fantasies often are not implemented or partially implemented. For example, children build a hut somewhere in the country, coached there in the summer of blankets, food, unpretentious dishes and dream of how they will live happily ever after, without adults, and as they get nice. But passes the summer, the game boring, and on the street cold, and life outside the home no longer seems so attractive. Children discover that parental control is not such a heavy burden, it is much more enjoyable. And how hard it is to be an adult ... So many questions have to solve every day ... No, better to be a child.

Protest shoots. Children sometimes get angry at adults. They think that they are not enough love to their requests inattentive, punished unfairly. Parents because you do not answer the same, they are not put in the corner! Kids want to punish adults. And because they can not do it somehow differently, they had no choice but to show the parents, how they bring their boys and girls. And now, standing in the corner, blubbered child thinks: go into the woods, I'll live there, there are mushrooms and berries ... An hour later, such fantasies are, but they are quite bright. Fantasy boy 8-9 years are well described in Lev Tolstoy's "Childhood." That's going to die, and they will cry ...

Romantic runaways. In the real shoots in distant countries are capable of a few children. Typically, this boy from childhood are prone to risk, restless, mischievous and often poorly managed. Their curiosity and self-confidence do not know the limit. Having read adventure books after watching movies, they are ready to turn his life into an adventure. Sometimes they do it in a very exotic and adventurous ways.

Unmotivated shoots. Experimental, romance, protest child shoots in my description look like a completely normal and understandable. But today, the force pushed out of the family factors than by a family attraction. Children sometimes do not know why they were on the street. Their runners were not associated with guilt of the parents or the feeling that they did something criminal. Live on the streets, chat with just anyone, and even steal seems normal to them. Appeared unmotivated shoots, shoots "just so", "the interest".

Radical shoots. Yes, and protest shoots now motivated far more powerful. In terms of social homogeneity in the Soviet times it was silly to run away. Attractive and alluring perhaps that was the capital. And children today are protesting against the whole lifestyle of their parents, or rather against the standard of living. From poverty can only be run - there, in the well-fed town, the wealthy citizens who drive expensive cars. Escaping into this case is not the worse way to left: others go into drugs boozing, a peace ... flee to these situations the children who are still at something hope and something looks.

Admission to prevent child runaways

• Do not be afraid to talk about the shoots with their children. We could talk about their fantasies, if they were children: "I even wanted to run! And you know what I come up with? "One day my father told me about how he's going to be a sailor and watched his diesel on the roof which connects to the Black Sea. As time passed, he grew up, graduated from high school with a gold medal and that's what got to Odessa "morehodki, enrolled in and graduated with honors, and then traveled (walked on the ship Bezhitsa") throughout the world. It was the only way out for the boys, post-war polusiroty, escape from poverty. For me this is a good example: you have to take risks, decided on drastic steps, if you really want real change in their lives.

• All the talk about escaping with a baby boy came up to and he could discuss their fantasies. Children share with each other. Maybe his friend is planning to escape and calls with them. No matter how we treated to the mysteries of friends, we must find a delicate way to talk and to initiate flight, and, perhaps, with his parents. Escape to the age of 8-10 years, really dangerous, and are not to curtsy.

• Discussing the baby shoots , you need to pay special attention to the fact that experienced adults who have been abandoned. As they do not sleep at night, what they do and say what they're going to take when their son (daughter) back. Moral of this conversation is this: do not be afraid to return. Parents, of course, be angry then, but first they will be pleased that the fugitive is back and prizhmut to themselves because they love their child.

Policemen direct the children in the guardianship, according to the address of residence, refine, lives there is really a child. And then it was accompanied by an adult sent home. Well, first, of course, fed.

• Attractiveness of shoots significantly reduced after these conversations. Aura of "forbidden fruit" will disappear. "Just think, - tell your child - all the running around, even my father."

• Of course, you need to track how and with whom children spend time. The main benchmarks - time. Question "When you come back?" Means that you trust your children. But if children are constantly violate the agreement, it's time to be particularly vigilant: "Who are you walking? You with him I wonder? Invite him (her) for tea. " In addition, children are most often trained to escape, but not solved it immediately. Of course, the question of the child on a pocket knife, matches, rope and a backpack - a signal to the conversation.