Brothers and sisters
Who of us in childhood did not begged their parents to give us a little brother or sister? Then, in infancy, it seemed an enticing prospect, and we do not think that the second child in the family can get across our interests. Well, when brothers and sisters love each other so that they are willing to share with each other everything. And because of conflicts on the basis of overlapping interests does not arise. But it is very rare. As a rule, brothers and sisters have something to share. At a minimum, parental love (and later the estate). There are two kinds of typical situations.
The first option - in the center of parental attention is the eldest child. He is considered the first heir and favorite. For example, the monarchs, or simply wealthy families the eldest child inherits the lion's share of parental property. Also, this situation could happen if the second youngest, the baby was unplanned. Then defend the rights it can be difficult. The second option - the reverse. Youngest becomes a pet in the family. Around him gallop with him blow away the dust, his guard by anything in the world. While the senior "has a great, albeit accustomed to autonomy."
What to do if you were in the position as the underdog love, parental care, or inheritance? First, forgive my parents and take their choice. You can not alter their own scandals and claims of the spirit: "Why do you love him more than me?" From this, of course, love and respect you do not increase. Try to really let go of resentment toward their parents. You can either resort to the help of a professional psychoanalyst, or do self-programming. To do this, or repeat himself over and over again: "I forgive my parents, I release myself from the old grudges, or write those words on paper and hang in a prominent place.
Second, do not forget that parents' love, like love any other people who can win. You accomplish nothing by jealousy, envy and conflict with your sister or brother. On the contrary, try to keep her / him around. By doing this you position yourself to the parents. Remember to change the relationships within the family can be, but only love and trust, rather than scolding and bickering.
