The first clash of will with the will of the parents of the child, and the first attempts to protest against what is not like in the outside world. How to behave in such situations to help your child cope with these first in my life, and therefore the most important challenges. Our children - amazing creatures. Just talking with them, we can survive her childhood again - all its joys and sorrows, all the moments of happiness, all-consuming, which is possible only in childhood. But our children are not angels, and sometimes their antics can bring us into a terrible confusion, bewilderment and even anger.

Often in public places (cafes, shops, buses) can be seen such a picture - a red, angry, disheveled mother drags her hand hard resisting kid who roars so that it seems he has now will break his heart. What happened? Yes, whatever - he may want a new bright toy as seen in a store may want to drink, eat, sleep, may not wish to stick with his mother on stifling the store and consider useless stuff on the shelves, finally, it just might ukachat in transport. Mom hisses that if he did not stop, she spanked him, will not make ice cream, and comes up with a thousand various punishments for a capricious child. The kid with all his silenok tries to keep his sobs, rushing out of my chest, but it is above its capacity.

This pipsqueak often simply unable to understand the reason for his whim, he does not understand the elementary fact that happens to him hysterical. The kid absolutely does not want to anger his parents, he just does not know how else to cope with the myriad fell on his impressions. And parents, in turn, feel powerless in the face of such a reaction of the child, fall into a trance, in a word, become unable to act as a sensible, reasonable people, and likened her baby.

In each of us somewhere deep continues to live a little, helpless child who needed comforting, soothing, which must continually demonstrate absolute love to repeat about his quite exceptional and irreplaceable. And if we as a child, for whatever reasons, received less their portion of attention and love, tears of our own baby vividly reminds us of this. We turn into the same helpless crumbs. Plach our baby forces us again and again to experience negative emotions from the past. All this happens at the subconscious level, because none of us examines his feelings at this moment, but we behave very inconsistently in relation to the baby, which is in principle nothing wrong. Just so, we will defend ourselves from such emotions.

But let us remember that we are still grown, and now our baby needs understanding and compassion on our part. He needs our love and care. Just take a crumb on your hands, tell him words of love softly poshepchite's ear, show pity for him, because he has very little! Anyone and does not occur to scream on a nursing infant, who comes in crying, and leads the whole family to rush to him alone. But you and your three-, four-, five-year boy near him gone! Children, however, great cunning, and use crying not only to inform parents about their discomfort. Who among us has not seen in a toy store a picture - the howling baby rolling on the floor, knocking his feet (and even your head!) On the floor, jumping around ruffled mum and dad, and vainly silyatsya lift it off the floor? A baby Know yourself, shouting: "Give! Give! Give me! "- And no matter what - dolls, cars or wooden horse. Tormented parents have no choice but to buy a coveted toy, and a sympathetically-mocking glances witnesses an ugly scene flee store. Baby, happily sobbing, pressed to his chest in the battle won hare or bear, the parents are happy that he calmed down, the sellers in the store happy that were able to sell the product. Everyone is happy? At first glance, yes, but ...

If these stories are repeated punctually, parents should think about the baby, not whether to adjust their educational methods. Repeated whims weaken the nervous system of your child, may even develop mental retardation - mental retardation, decreases the credibility of adults in the child's eyes, and in front of a harmonious system is crumbling relationship parents-children. So what do you do? First of all, as Carlson used to say, "peace and only peace!". Remember that you - an adult and you are quite capable of coping with the situation. Big problems of small children solved, just be a maximum of understanding to my little man - he really really wants to fulfill his desires, and does this every admissible for a way.

Embrace it, remind them that it is his love, but you are upset is his behavior. Believe me, the child does not fuss you luck! Encourage your child to a compromise, a solution that would suit you and him. If a baby can not calm himself, help him - switch his attention to another object, distract the child. Do not leave a crumb left alone with his feelings, show empathy, try to put yourself in his place. How often do we ourselves are disappointed when our expectations are not met. So what is your child with his perfectly natural childish egoism, when it absolutely sincerely believe that is the center of the universe!