Beginning relations

Most of the errors, misunderstandings and unfortunate incidents, which sometimes cross out only incurred interest occurs when a first date. The first appointment - this is a step, which begins any romantic relationship. The most common mistake - an attempt to look better than you really are. It is stupid for several reasons. Firstly, there is nothing that destroys relationships, both false and unnatural. Your attempt to impress may cause rejection, as unnatural.

The first appointment as the first impression of a woman who could prove decisive. And often it is the behavior of representatives of the weaker sex depends on whether it will be a meeting beginning of a very beautiful romance with a happy end, or else the last. Clearly, in such a crucial moment just going wild emotions and excitement women, and men make mistakes. The first and most common is called "Pinocchio Syndrome." And although this cute fairy tale character was very moving, and to some extent alive, but he was made out of wood. Which successfully portrayed himself came out on a date a woman. Most often in the first minutes of the meeting a woman so "squeezed", which loses all common sense.

Man she had hardly knows, so adjust to his favorite line of conduct it can not. As a result, she rushes from one extreme to another. Then laughs inappropriately, then loses the thread of the conversation, then all stops. Cavalier in this situation can only be a natural cycle, and resourcefulness that the conversation did not come down "to nothing." But if the experiences and views of men are not enough, then the pair and scatter, dissatisfied with each other. The second variant of misconduct - is excessive looseness. Wanting to please the partner, which, as it seems like it was self-assured and uninhibited girl, a woman struggling pretend to be such. As a rule, it is sure that she will succeed of course, and will look very nice.

In fact, simulated looseness much like promiscuity, and extreme changes in behavior does not appeal, but rather a frightening man. Wow, he met with a modest girl, an intellectual, but a date has come a natural woman - a vamp! It is unlikely that in such a situation, he decides to take the initiative and good if wait for the end of appointment, rather than retire early. Such women would be good to follow the principle: "no fear". " Sometimes too active action is equivalent to inaction, which will be discussed later.

There are some women who are popularly called softly, "Snow Queen" and sharply - "primorozhennymi. They are in no way take the initiative and the most similar to snuluyu fish. All responsibility falls on the shoulders of a man who decides everything in life, starting with the choice of the first appointment to the moment of conception of first child. Not that these ladies were imbeciles, not at all. They just ... lazy! And all the world. Not so long ago introduced me to one such cutie. All its appearance, she reminded me of some small mammal: the soft, fluffy and hopeless dull in appearance. (Later I realized that it was sloth). Girl very successfully married a very energetic person who is quite well solved its problems and loved her unconscious. For a while they got on well together, but then it all went well. Most likely, was afraid to "melt away" from his undying love.

So, if you are by temperament resembles a "hot" Varangian guys and girls, then do not portray an African passion. But if you people live and love socializing, do not try to be like Snow White. Your companion, this might not be pleased. Another fear often lead women from complexes before their first date - a fear of looking stupid in the eyes of the interlocutor. Especially if a man considers himself an intellectual. And, hoping to show off to give us something, a woman decides to stand her sexuality. That in itself is pretty good, but it can give your relationship a slightly different shade than waiting damsels. And communication is subsequently take place exclusively in the horizontal plane, which is going to interview a woman hardly dreamed of.

Apparently, the presence of the same concerns seem smart enough and pushes the woman to another deed. It creaks, no tar, discusses the latest fashion exhibition artist, seasonal discounts on clothing in superexpensive store. All information that avalanche falls on the poor man, is intended to convey to him the following: a woman is very respectable and intelligent. But as a rule, carried away by his performance in "What? Where? When? ", She paid little attention to the emotional reaction partner. And he's such a topic of conversation may be uninteresting, but he supports it out of politeness. And he thinks at this time: "My God! With whom I contacted! Well ugorazdilo same! "And even if your idea was a sold-out? Let's suppose you have guessed what he wants from a woman partner. What's next, if this is not what you want? You'll change, or change the partner, or just limited to those that can be written in a notebook yet another victory?

How not to spoil the impression of yourself?

The secret is to be such, what you eat. Sometimes the most original - is to try to open their mind partner. And every man will adopt these rules. He understands why you need a first date, in contrast to many women. A first date is in order to determine whether you want to be second, and whether it will bring mutual pleasure. The purpose of the first date - recognition. Ease in communication, ability to maintain a friendly attitude, a manifestation of male interest as a person, and even a list of questions that you would like to get the answers - how much more productive in dealing with men than flirting, or trying to adjust to a long story about yourself, your favorite and the extraordinary, from which all go crazy (or drop everything and hurt).

If the first meeting left feeling ease of communication, the joy of recognition and good human feelings - it turned out well. And that's what you need for a subsequent approach, we now discuss. As he wrote Remarque, the most dangerous date - the second. Novelty anymore, but something more durable yet emerged. If at first meeting partners are looking at each other, then during the second and subsequent meetings, there is a further recognition, and comparison with the first impression.

Well, if you both let each other know themselves in different situations. Desire to please, natural in such circumstances, causes select the most advantageous situations and circumstances. Many believe that extreme experiences can help establish contact. Certainly, yes. Of course, you do not necessarily stage a real car accident. You can try to ride together on a roller coaster or a parachute jump. Or do something more breathtaking, but not threatening your life. The main thing that the experience was striking and leaves a pleasant memory that will work for you overall. Except the thrill you get a chance to see how your passion will behave in unusual circumstances, as well as demonstrating the same from its side.

But we should not overplay or abuse such things as the simulation of scenes from novels - all the same, no. Note that the "dying swan" - a slightly hackneyed role, in addition, if you're caught in hypocrisy, your relationship ends. Still, men characterized by some weaknesses. To say that we should use them, we can not. But consider them desirable that your partner has opened to you that he, in fact, it represents, otherwise the process of dating and convergence becomes meaningless. We should never forget that men are proud and rather retreat than to risk will fall short of expectations. Therefore, self-esteem can be teased if this is a test for independence. But it is dangerous if it's just a whim, but you do not choose a superhero for his novel.