Baby Tears
Who of us, dear parents, do not want to see my child reasonable, calm, not hysterical, and to cope without the roar and hysterics, and not call each time to help mom or dad, and not to burst into bitter tears at the sight of the slightest scratches, and so ... so ... so ... perfect child, is not it? But to our regret with you (and relief at the same time), children do not like the pictures from magazines. They are capricious, bothering me, constantly crying, can not do anything for yourself every now and then heard their bass roar of "ma-and-a-ma-a!!! But they are loved, lovely and family that we are ready to forgive them everything!
From personal experience I can tell you that most angered me and irritate children's tears . I am completely lost when my year-old son was crying, and absolutely do not understand what he wants. But even I, with my inexperience, I can tell you that crying crying discord. Sometimes my baby roars so that I have burst the eardrums - so it gives me to understand that he again fails to tie your shoelaces. He howls his "ma-a-ma!!! And I have a cruising speed of nesus to help him, otherwise he will grow into a roar desperate sobs with howls that will not soon abate. Sometimes he cries, so that breaks my heart at the sight of his grief, and he just dropped a spoon under the table. And so all the time ...
For three years I was able to identify at least fifteen varieties of baby crying. Can they lead. So, are crying from hunger (it is practiced very small children) crying with fright, and the child may be frightened of almost anything - from a spider on the wall before the shooting on TV, crying from the hurt (why did you put daddy more porridge? "); Cry- freak (i want a new car!) crying from frustration (no matter what), crying from fatigue; crying from the pain (not too often, or stop to pity); crying out of pity (no matter whom - to the neighbor girl, who punished the mother, or a kitten that fell from the basket), crying for the sake of crying, so ad infinitum.
Close to the child people can always determine what caused the baby crying - hurt if he was tired Does he want to see if there are, or just naughty. I think that the baby through the crying complements his still imperfect set of means of communication in human society. Very quickly, the baby begins to understand that crying - a great means of influence on others, and is trying to diversify the palette of shades of mourning, so that relatives can accurately determine exactly what took their precious little children at this time.
Most importantly - be able to quickly understand what the kid wants to, because the form completely miserable, blubbered, unintelligible stammering crumbs able to break his heart. Again, based on personal experience, I can say that shouting like "Stop crying!", Or "calm down now!" Have completely backfired. Necessary "method of scientific sticking" to guess the cause of children's unhappiness, and immediately close it down, otherwise you risk getting a Chinese wall of misunderstanding between himself and his beloved baby. His grudge against you will not last forever, but someday he "remember everything" and you will also be ashamed.
But there are even more unhappy parents - their children seem to cry. All the time, unless you are sleeping. Children's tears flow like with or without reason - "sorry for the bird!" - as saying the immortal hero of the Shura of the "Caucasian captive". If these children can not raise your voice - they will immediately begin to cry, so yes, if they had just beaten, they are to the convulsive sobs sorry for dead birds and beetles, and if someone came into conflict with them, beware - you can drown in a stream their tears. Such children can not ignore even the slightest wound to his body, every scratch should be promptly and mourned inconsolably. Persuasion does not have any effect, and even reverse - the more you are trying to persuade them not to cry, the louder they cry.
Parents of these children are wondering - what will happen to them next? How to help these sensitive children? Do unto death they now have to wipe the threads of children's tears? There is no panacea. Each case is individual, but we can say with confidence - this is exorbitant sensitivity with time, so, dear parents, do not worry too much about this "uniqueness" of their children. Take them for what they are, they badly needed your love, as well as the confidence that whatever happens, you always come to their assistance, support them and comfort them. You must understand that despite his love for life can not be with them and protect them from worldly troubles. Teach your crumb yourself cope with at least some of their children's woes.
Try to shift attention away kid, take him with something interesting, specific and useful. Remember that these children should not be treated by shouting, ridicule, and coercion. Patience and again patience - that's the key to success. Irritation - it's the number one enemy in your relationship with your child. Analyze yourself and you will see horror that: When you are angry child's behavior, you love him less, and he knows it.
Your baby is just learning to live, but he already has their own needs, goals and desires. He is trying to reach them in ways that are available to him at this stage of its development, and crying - exactly the same way as many others. So do not be irritating to hear a child crying, but try to understand what caused it, hearken to the essence of childish grief and help her adored, beloved, best in the world baby!
