All brides cry

Lack of life experience, self-confidence and feelings that prevent us from looking where you want to, can turn into a hard slap in the face so that we, even the feeling that something is wrong, absolutely say to ourselves: "No, it can be. And in the end, he loves me! ". Very possibly. But love and family - it's the same thing as happiness, freedom, FAITH - they have each their own. The fact that one rule for others - the story of the nightmare. Tell the story of why sometimes crying bride. My friend was getting married. Before the wedding, there were no problems - the groom was brought up, attentive, seemed to be genuinely fond of her. Family fiance she was familiar enough - say, what this can be important - the family as a family. The bride had her own apartment, work, and she did not attach any significance to who the parents of her future husband.

All the preparations for the wedding of the young was carried out independently, and the day before the wedding, as expected, the young went to his father, that tradition had been met.

In her wedding day, elegant and ready to absolute happiness, met with the groom-law in a fairly drunk, started talking about the role of women in the family of this man. Young, however, initially had some confusion, but with the support of his father quickly recovered from his embarrassment. More particularly sip in honor of the holiday. Burning with shame in front of family and friends, the bride went to register. Throughout the ceremony, the groom's father supported the rear, causing periodic observations of young, it is unclear in whose address. And then - a wedding, guests overnight in the home of new parents, drunken walking across the room, a few fights, and even a friend of the bridegroom insulted girlfriend. Add to this drunken weasel wife, wow wedding night!

The next day, as usual, sat at the table, and one of the guests tedious and Toast drunkenly started talking about harmony, family, instruct the young ... Then my girlfriend broke through. She sobbed loudly and could not stop. Mother-in-power, and patronizingly said: "Do not worry, all the bride cry . "

This marriage was not long, but if it did not exist, it would be even better. What shocked her was absolutely normal for a family of her fiance, so no one is discussing. This is certainly an extreme case, but he fully reflect the depth of frustration and a sense of someone who realized it. Of course, the gap between ideology and habitual way of life may not be as deep, but that marriage - is not only the union of two loving hearts, but also connect the two worlds - this is the case. And sometimes, unfortunately, these worlds are incompatible. Before buying a wedding dress, think about it.

Assume that you have all the good you are in love, happy, about to start a family, but rather hope that you recently make an offer. At this point, should stop and think about some things. About what?

● Do you really want to marry this person?

● If in its place was another, whether you would accept the offer?

● Do you know his parents, his friends, in general, what do you know about him?

● How often do you meet?

● What do you expect from marriage - a cloudless happiness and social status of married women, children, the solid ground under their feet, certainty is that you'll be together?

● You can imagine how he will behave in different situations?

● You sure it's love?

● If there was now a man of your past, would you have changed your intention?

Most of these questions seem rhetorical, but only at first glance. In fact, women are often in a hurry to start a family. They think that would be a family, let alone relationships in it, they will be able to establish. In fact, many rush to change their status, to decide not to lose time ... But you never know what else. Without knowing exactly what kind of man her lover, how and where they live, how to build a relationship with her future husband's family, both in her family will take the groom and son in law - it all seems so insignificant at first.

The more a woman in a hurry, the more a man doubts the sincerity of her feelings and deliberation. And often, not without reason. Do not take the proposal to consider the partner as an insult. But in fact, then the biggest problems and unpleasant surprises are the cause of bitter regrets, disappointments, and dramas. Previously, there was a custom engagement, something which he observed so far. During this period, the bride and groom are committed to get to know each other better, and their relatives to decide how best to organize the top young family life. That is right twice. Young people, especially lovers, rarely look at life realistically. They feel that their love is so strong that it can easily overcome all life's difficulties.

Relatives also interested, of course, to family life of young turned out well, but did not add all the family problems, help regulate many of the issues to which young people currently do not care because they are fully engaged with each other. Relationship being established between the families, to which both families are carefully and tactfully, fearing ruin the joy of children. This preliminary period, of course, useful. But nowadays the traditional approach to marriage is unpopular and rarely practiced. Young people to decide for themselves. But questions of this does not become less, rather, they simply do not see the time. That does not negate their importance.

But before you finally decide, we recommend to evaluate everything you know about each other and try to imagine how it will look like when you become a family. Firstly, the very idea of marriage - they are different from you or do you agree? And whether the agreement? And think about it your family? How much you will depend on the parents? This is an important question because if you have to live together, then they will have to reckon with, and to a large extent. On which side each of you will be in a conflict? So all things that relate to your family, it is advisable to discuss with them.

How your partner communicates with his family, you can safely take a sample of how it will communicate with you, when will the period of euphoria. Many of the habits and manners that touches you might get bored with time, as a toothache. Sociability, which you so much, can escalate into something that all of his free time will belong to his friends. And so on and so on ... By the way, for women. Most men think about it, without any books and advice. Talk with your fiance on this subject, and he at least will not think you'll be happy just because he made you an offer. And let your tears at his own wedding will be tears of joy.