Education of good habits and manners can significantly influence the acceptance or rejection of a young man for the everyday use of the habits and behaviors, which he tries to themselves indiscriminately in adolescence. For example, it is difficult to imagine that a young man who was accustomed to dine at fine dinner table, seriously carried away feasts in some basement. Anyway, long time. But as the shortcomings are the continuation of benefits, they can also play a dual role. Very docile and easygoing child may also be influenced by obediently to someone else.

And behold, one day ... a riot, explosion, catastrophe! Our child is doing us all out of spite, spite, back to what we were taught. It appears some unknown friends to us, and with them new habits, habits and hobbies. Your calm and thoughtful boy who was fond of philately, suddenly sells his precious album with stamps and tells you that from today it started to smoke and therefore collects now packs of cigarettes, or beer cans. So he still drink? And if he falls under the influence of drug addicts? You are in terror, crying, beating his head against the wall, but all in vain. You stopped listening. Husband in the whole blame you - you're not looking for a child! "You yell it, he missed his son and did not pay him enough time ... In the family discord. Quarrels and scandals at every step.

But you must understand that now is not the best time to determine who is right and who is to blame. The most pressing question should be "what to do." The family must unite in the face of a common enemy - the evil passions of the child. You should be aware that adolescents tend natural curiosity. They want to try everything, literally everything in this life, it is desirable now and in full. But, in truth, very little chance that the child of a happy family is actually going on a curve track. Normally, all the experiments because in his youth and youth remain. And who among us is not smoking a secret from their parents, hiding on the balcony? Who did not drink port wine or beer cans at the party?

How not to "lose" a child? You can not say anything clearly. In each situation should be their approach. But one thing remains constant - at the forefront when dealing with a teenager should be a hell of patience, boundless love and calm confidence that you are together, and hence can cope with anything. This is especially disappointing parents smart, even gifted, with a fine organization, and children. Though what is there to wonder? A child who learns easily and best of all, which is very little common topics for conversation with their classmates and peers, often suffer from loneliness and not belonging to the main mass of the "other". He does not understand them, but they do not understand it. But he wants to be with their peers. If your gifted child is not found a company such as myself (and this rarely happens because talent - good piece, and usually these children are not so much among themselves and with other features do not communicate), the risk that the company outsiders to draw him, is sufficiently large. Of course, then usually comes the understanding that the teenager "fell the wrong way, but sometimes it is too late.

Try to distract your child from bad company, because it was in the company and the teenagers start to drink and smoke and shoot up and smell the trash. To be like everyone else - the main motivation for adolescent behavior. Produce a teenager pride in the fact that he is different from the crowd, because he is different, not like everything. Suppose that he is proud of himself and his achievements, he must know that you are also proud of him for what he is, what is there. Bad habits and bad habits of children is a signal! Sometimes a teenager turns the wrong way just because he wants to draw the attention of adults for themselves and their problems. He yells to you - look, I'm in trouble, help me become someone else! It is our duty - to hear his appeal.

If you can not pull the teen from the bad influences of the group, recruit help, do not be shy, what would people say about you. Much worse will then bite his elbow, at the thought that you could do and did not. Drug addiction usually begins with an innocent desire to "try" to explore, to learn. But those who are interested in new customers, use the curiosity of young people in order to attract new consumers (addicts rarely live more than five years), and use for this is quite academic, psychological techniques.

For children who stayed for various reasons, without us, their parents, that is, if we were not able to take the place that befits us, in the soul's own child - goes hunting! Without any exaggeration we can say that is a real hunt, as in the mystical thriller. Trusting children, do not forget that control and participation are needed. Although many psychologists believe that this may not be the basis of relations. Well, let there be no basis! And just a part of it. Let everyone remember how we would be grateful to their parents if they had at the time of N kept us from some deeds! As we sometimes reproached them, "Why did you let me!" So do so as not to hear it from our children! Democracy - it is not irresponsible.

Drugs

I know several cases in which teenagers planted on the needle "almost forcibly. Therefore you should not blithely apply to absences for the night, a few days, especially if you do not know those people personally, and do not know where it is sent to your child. Sometimes, for parents is a complete surprise addiction child. Most importantly - do not be late, do not miss the moment when you can still do something. Therefore, look after their children properly. Do not watch, but watch, as our grandmothers. Those whose eyes are open and filled with care, will see.

Symptoms that may indicate that your child has started to use drugs, can be:

● General changes - you do not understand it, he has changed. The impression is that it replaced. Lost interest in family problems, to learn, to old friends, new opportunities - not clear creative personality, mostly misunderstood or not those with whom your child has talked before. His answers can be either too harsh or delayed, as if to hear it takes time.

● Sudden mood swings, the unnatural excitement, the apathy and lethargy. Headaches, unwillingness to communicate, changes in sleep and appetite. All this is somehow related to absences from home that are very unexpected.

● Changing the pupils. Different drugs cause different reactions of the pupils. They can be expanded or narrowed, but they kind of unnatural for this coverage.

● In the pockets can be packages of drugs and other reagents, the purpose of which is unknown to you. Smell of grass or acetone - also worrying signs. Foul dishes, which used drug addicts for self-medication, burnt spoons and metal bowls - the attributes of drug addicts.

● Appearance - pale with an unnatural glow in the form of a butterfly - a vivid indication of drug use.

● From the home can be lost money, and things that are easily converted into cash. In general, the child begins to lie, and attempts to question or to keep the house causes a sharp aggressiveness.

If you notice these symptoms, then you should throw all the power at any cost, to keep the child home immediately and bring in specialists. Sometimes it's too late.

Do not be ashamed, to persuade and threaten - it does not help. You should not listen to promises - it is simply an attempt to deceive. Be firm. The only thing that can help - this is your strength, courage and desire to save the child.