A friend of her husband
What would you not tell men about friendship with a woman, they all recognize an undeniable nuance of these relationships - between opposite-sex friends are bound to have sympathy, but if you dig a little deeper, it becomes clear that the basis of this sympathy is almost always a sexual interest.
Knowingly Bismarck wrote: Friendship between a man and a woman is weaker at nightfall. Girlfriends of men are different, it could be a classmate, a former passion, an employee with whom he works or has worked at one time. Usually, the relationship with these women supported a long time, because people are close spiritually and, of course, there is sympathy.
Probably the most "unpleasant" friendship for women from all of this is friendship with former lover. Such a friendship found, thank God, not often, but, unfortunately, if it exists - is a lot of anxiety a woman. Usually a man with former lover bind very good memories of her, he can usually trust that does not trust even you. Most worryingly, despite his assurances that sexual attraction is still a former mistress.
In this case, you need to stay calm and try to get acquainted with the mysterious girlfriend. Tantrums and ultimatums do not give - they'll tell you that no one no one sees and does not make friends, but in fact your faithful will maintain these relationships. Therefore, in order not to be deceived, it is better to show interest to her friend and her husband have already met to draw a conclusion - a rival to it or not.
Experiences are most often in vain, the ex lover has long been its own life and relationship with your man for it are purely hail-fellow character. But be that as it may, you must be present in these relations, we should not let his men spend time alone with his girlfriend. If a friend is lonely, and she asks you to help the faithful to carry things to the country or kill the shelf, do not raise a stink, but simply to offer and our help too.
It will be absolutely fine if you come to her friend with her man. If he has nothing to hide and he's really only one, it should not particularly resist your presence. If you see that the former lover builds his eyes and tries to seduce him - there can already be quite correct to throw a tantrum, and the reason why you are against this communication, as the saying is true "face" of this friendship you have seen with my own eyes!
There is still a rather "nasty" kind of friends are friends who have decided to spare the men after breaking up. History is quite banal, she loves him madly, he lost interest in it and threw it, proposing to stay friends. Now he has to maintain her relationship because of his gnawing sense of guilt.
In fact, such a friendship is harmless and it will not last long, so do not even mess up your nerves. An abandoned woman will hook or by crook try to get her lover back, all these "manipulations", in the end, would get your favorite, and he had no regrets send annoying friend far away. Quite simply, the man is unlikely to maintain long-term relationship with a woman who does not cause him no emotion but pity.
Another type of girlfriends - a childhood friend. To this Madame, he played in a sandbox, then they went to a kindergarten attended the same school, and maybe even in the same class. He can spend hours with her tryndet on the phone, choose your gifts motayas shopping, asking her advice, what a surprise to you, etc. etc.
You are increasingly overcomes jealousy and anger, and you think about it for myself, why would those two do not merge, since they so well together? But your pious claims that she told him as a sister and nothing more. This is a fairly complicated case, when the people behind the years and their friendship tested by time - to try to break this relationship is simply useless. You just mess up your own. In this case, it makes sense to do what Napoleon Bonaparte: If you can not defeat the enemy - make him a friend.
In this scenario, happy, everything will remain. You will not be the cause of discord between the friends, a friend of loved one will always be on your mind and your beloved will appreciate such a noble deed on your part. And now a few tips on how to recognize a friend's mistress.
The first warning sign you should be an unwillingness to partner to acquaint you with my girlfriend. Every time he comes up with something new that God forbid, this meeting never took place.
The second "beacon" - he always avoids talking about it, you're trying to ask about their relationship, how and where to met her marital status, her age and so on, but nothing intelligible in response to not getting. On the contrary, he tries to get away from this conversation. Only one conclusion - he has something to hide.
Also, you should alert the fact that any communication with her, he carefully hides from you. Whether it's a phone call, sms-ka, the meeting - he tries not to advertise, and if you have something to learn something by accident. If it's just friendship, then talk to her on the phone he can and in your presence, he should not hide the cell phone so you do not, God forbid not read the sms-ku from her and even more so he should not meet with her secretly.
All these factors are wake-up call, and you have to wisdom and patience. Insist on getting acquainted, motivate their desire to get to know what you're interested to see such meaningful for your man's man. What do you too want to be her friend, you do not mind if she showed up at your house, etc. To make accurate conclusions about this friendship is possible only when he saw the woman and talk to her.
If your man starts to reproach you, that you infringe on his freedom, motivate their desire to become acquainted with his girlfriend because she just interested in you as a person. Let him call you at least one good reason why it is you can not get to know her. And finally ... your man will not have any friends, if you will be able to be his true and best friend. Because friendship can do without love, but love without friendship - never!
